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Schizo
Extreme Fanatic   Posts: 897 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 27/10/2004 at 01:16 PM |
Thankyou, Bettie, it's good to know I'm not alone!
Of course, I do know tons of people who married their first boy/girlfriend,
but of course they're mostly all in my old cult/church. But people who
actually stick to one person and only one person for life, without having
to be guilt-tripped into it, are incredibly rare. And of course, with my
Shmeng-ucation, I have deliberately tested my monogomatic status to make
sure it WASN'T based on lingering guilt issues. And I've just plain come
to know that I don't WANT more people to share that part of myself with.
Maybe it's that whole anti-social teenager who just sort of missed out on
the whole high-school dating thing that produces the true monogamist type.
You finally find someone you feel comfortable letting into that stockaded
core of yourself, and it's just too much bother to let anyone else in.
After all, two's company, but three's a crowd, and people like us just
don't enjoy crowds.
It's nice to know that I'm not the only freak of nature, though!
So, while I appreciate the polyamourous mindset in theory, perhaps it's
more of a lifestyle for the extroverts than for the freakishly introverted
like you and I. ____________________
"You can tell by the scars on my arms and the cracks in my hips and the
dents in my car and the blisters on my lips that I'm not the carefullest of
girls." - Dresden Dolls, "Girl Anachronism"
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bettie_x
Extreme Fanatic  Posts: 1570 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 28/10/2004 at 01:30 AM |
That's a good theory. I systematically avoided, shot down, or gave down
right nasties to most everyone who even HINTED they wanted anything from me
or had any interest, or I just outright didn't see it because I didn't WANT
anybody. I have no need for "friends"...I do have them, I just select
people that are like me and don't want anyone to expect anything out of
them other than the occasional beer or smokebreak at work. I'm suprised as
I've come to find out just how many people still remember me, who liked me,
who were interested, but were either too afraid to let me know or to let
their usual group of friends know, for friendship or otherwise. Part of it
makes me sad that I isolated myself, but part of me is glad that I didn't
let myself get involved in friendships or more serious relationships that
would have petered out or left bad memories. Part of it is a desire to
wonder what it would be like to not be how I was and am now, and part of it
is just plain and simple control over my surroundings. I"m not a
considerate person, and fewer relations allows for fewer feelings to hurt
and be hurt, less to remember, and gives more of my love and what
consideration i have to those I keep close. most of it goes to my husband,
the rest goes to my family, but giving to too many makes me feel thin and
exhausted and fake. So I keep the numbers thin, and the love genuine.
ANd back to speaking of what is sexy, I was checking out my ass the other
day in a new pair of jeans, and somehow I've grown an massively FINE big
butt. It's badonkadonk with an extra big ONK, and it's hillarious. I'm
gonna go practice my booty shaking. ____________________
Trapped in time. Surrounded by evil. Low on gas.
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W0rmW00d
Fanatic   Posts: 355 Registered: 5/8/2004 Status: Offline
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posted on 28/10/2004 at 08:00 PM |
i think it was pale-face who was lamenting that people didnt realise that
they have to abandon eveerything to get into bed with someone.
i simply dont think this is true. certainly i am not the most experienced,
but most of the sex that i have had i feel that i have abandoned nothing
and, to the best of my knowlege, my partners felt the same. obviously
sometimes people do abandon everything for an easy fuck, but not everyone
who has sex, or wants to, should be tarred with the same brush.
whether people feel comfortable, sexy, desirable, or easy in what they wear
it should be their perogative to wear it. we can like it or loathe it but
it is their body and their choice. as our good lord matt groening wrote (or
had someone to write for him) in a simpsons treehouse of horror, 'just dont
look' if it distresses you. i dont think that we should presume to judge
people for the clothes they wear. if you noticed me walking down the street
you would probably fish for loose change. doesnt mean that i am a tramp. of
course in the case of townies (wiggers chavs etc) it is perfectly
acceptable to judge them instantly and harshly, but thats just the
exception that proves the rule.
oh, and my twopenny'orth on what i find sexy. yes, revealing clothing can
be and often is sexy, but the most sexy person it has ever been my pleasure
to know never wears revealing clothing.
[Edited on 29/10/2004 by W0rmW00d] ____________________
Eritis sicut Deus scientes bonum et malum.
And the third angel sounded, and a troll army did descend upon the world.
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ash_psyche
Coward   Posts: 10 Registered: 28/10/2004 Status: Offline
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posted on 29/10/2004 at 11:12 AM |
Holy shit! I'm not alone! I guess that means I'm not the last monogamist
either. I share a lot of the withdrawal that bettie_x had, but I got nabbed
by someone at work. He was too charming for me... I may get completely shot
down for this, but I just don't want to share that sort of intimacy with
everyone. Ideally, only one person, but since that plan got shot in the
foot a long time ago, I'm determined to make this one my final.
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pale-face
Fanatic  Posts: 478 Registered: 22/9/2004 Status: Offline
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posted on 29/10/2004 at 01:55 PM |
| wormwood you have a point. i realize that not every one gives up everything
to get laid. seldom do, but those who do are just so... i dont even know if
there is a word for it. but i pity their need for sex. it is pathetic if
you need to hang off someone to make them have sex with you. ____________________
fucking classy.
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Shade
Fanatic  Posts: 289 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 31/10/2004 at 01:33 PM |
And yet that is what puritan hard line Xians ask their followers to do in
order to follow their god. How - something.
____________________
It is only through the lack of sex that humanity derives the need for an
all encompassing blind love. And in that moment of extreme horniness with
no relief in sight, in that moment can be found the birth of religion.
-Me
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W0rmW00d
Fanatic Posts: 355 Registered: 5/8/2004 Status: Offline
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posted on 4/11/2004 at 04:57 AM |
| i think pale face used the word you were looking for: pathetic? ____________________
Eritis sicut Deus scientes bonum et malum.
And the third angel sounded, and a troll army did descend upon the world.
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W0rmW00d
Fanatic Posts: 355 Registered: 5/8/2004 Status: Offline
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posted on 4/11/2004 at 08:25 AM |
| a thought just occurred to me. i just rescanned this thread so i could be
wrong, but did anyone give this advice to the original poster: if someone
tells you off for dressing 'provocatively' just tell them to fuck off. its
their problem not yours. ____________________
Eritis sicut Deus scientes bonum et malum.
And the third angel sounded, and a troll army did descend upon the world.
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