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Articles: I'll get him a noose for Christmas |
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DarkMistress on Thursday, October 17, 2002 - 04:47 AM PST
My lovely little pudge of a nephew, George, is two years old. I love him dearly but I haven't had much time to spend with him, still he is close to me. I had a niece, Jordann, who died of strep throat and pneumonia at six months. I wondered what sort of shit was being pulled because the last I heard those illnesses were easily recognized.
My brother Mario married a bipolar woman and I believe she had other problems as well. She's been off her medication because she's a drunk and those pills don't mix well with alcohol. She cheated on my brother so Jordann wasn't my real niece, but I still loved her more than ever.
We've gone through this routine before, accept this time my mother won't be taken to court. This time, George won't be in our custody. This time I've had enough. Our entire family has had enough.
My brother and his wife moved to Oklahoma for some odd reason that no one knows or cares about. He would have nightmares about George dying so he wouldn't get much sleep. His wife came home with hickeys on her neck when he decided he had had enough. He had the rope around his neck when she walked in, but he hadn't kicked the chair from underneath him yet. He was having second thoughts anyway, and wasn't going to kill himself, but he was put in the mental institution. Now she has something against him, not that he'd try and divorce her and keep George.
When he got out of the hospital she left for the night. He took George and headed back here to Minnesota where he stayed with his real dad and step mom. I didn't get to see George. He talked to both my mom and his dad, telling them he wanted to make decisions for himself and not have people prodding him. Heh..yeah..
My mom thought she knew what was going on, thought Mario had his head on straight. His wife called her and told her of the conversation she'd just had with my brother. He said I love you to her after telling my mom he didn't want anything to do with her. If that wasn't enough, he sent his wife the money to come and get George. Of course my mother keeps in contact with her ex husband, so she knew of this when Mario called her. He wasn't going to tell her because he knew her reaction, he got exactly what was coming to him. It didn't do him much good though, he's still a moron.
It's almost as if he doesn't want the responsibility. Why bring a child into the world if you're going to put him or her in danger? Yes, his wife is dangerous. She hits him and she doesn't take care of him well. We believe we'll never get to see him again after this. Mario was staying with his dad and they're kicking him out. We've all had enough of his bullshit. I have pictures of George but none with him in my arms, only vague memories of those days.
My anger is swelling and all I really want to do is slap that 28-year-old baby. You'd think having a child would make you a little less self obsessed. You'd think the child's life and needs would be more important, that you'd want the best. I'm worried about George's life and what sort of environment he's going to be brought up in. Dysfunctional doesn't even begin to describe the family these two mentally ill people threw together carelessly. I refuse to see my nephew suffer through life; but then again, I'll probably never see him again.
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Re: I'll get him a noose for Christmas
by bettie_x (strangersangel@hotmail.com)
on Oct 17, 2002 - 11:15 AM
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I'm sorry hon...really it's never never easy to see fucked up people fucking up their kids. It's not fair, and if you've read anything I've posted about "kids and retarded parents" you'd know I am SO on your side. WHy do they bring children into the world that they can't care for? WHy do they bring children into the world that they don't want? Because they're stupid, and selfish, and immature.
It's not about another life, it's about attention, something to feel sorry for themselves about, something to bitch about. They don't see it as another life that needs love, attention, and saftey. The child is an "it"...and It is a pain in the ass, It is a nuissance, It has "ruined their lives"...so you suggest adoption and they freak out and "you can't take It away from me! I'm It's MOTHER!!!"
Michael and I are considering "taking" his nephews...their mother is so good at putting out the "concerned mother with screwed up kids and she doesn't know WHY" act, when in reality she tells the oldest she hates him, she hits him, she doesn't pay attention to him, she's put him through hell. The kid knew me for three days before begging me to take him home with me..."I WANNA COME HOME WITH YOU PLEASE TAKE ME WITH YOU". He was 4.
Working at a mall I see the WORST of the worst...I saw one mother with a three year old, she was gabbing with a friend, ignoring her son except for to swat at him and scream for no reason...he was just standing there, fidgeting, being an ignored 3 year old, and she'd whip around, grab his hands and shake them and yell "CUT IT OUT! What's WRONG WITH YOU! JESUS CHRIST STOP IT!"
Finally she did this over and over and then SMACKED him and yelled "WHAT THE FUCK IS YOUR PROBLEM?!"
So finally I turned around and said "Wanna know what his fucking problem is? HE HAS TO GO HOME WITH YOU. I'd be "misbehaving" if I had you as my mother too, lady"
It carried from there, she called me a bitch, I called her trash....you know the routine...and it made me very very angry to know that kid had to go home with that woman.
I know so many people that would be the best parents in the world and CAN'T have kids...so they try to adopt and it takes years and years...all they want is a child to have a family, a FAMILY....and people who don't have the slightest clue how to be decent human beings let alone decent PARENTS pop them out left and right like it's no big deal and abuse them and neglect them and make them feel worthless.
This is a big pet peeve of mine...can't you tell? There is nothing more enraging to me than bad parents and sad kids.
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Re: I'll get him a noose for Christmas
by IamSquid (AAA@sockmonkeys.net)
on Oct 17, 2002 - 01:52 PM
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Keep track of him, even if it means hiring a PI to find him. Send him gifts every once in a while to make sure he knows he's loved by someone. Love transcends all and if he's got no love in his life who knows where he might end-up in life.
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Re: I'll get him a noose for Christmas
by Closetgothbabe on Oct 17, 2002 - 02:48 PM
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I am sorry to hear that, it is disturbing to hear about little babies and children being raised by morons. People think they want kids and then when they get them they realize they dont have the freedom to do what they want all the time. Then sometimes they dont care and do what they want anyway even if it means the child is the one hurt by all of it. All of that just makes my sick! I have kids and I spend alot of time with them and they come before anything or anyone. It hurts me to see how cruel and mean people are in general but little children cant take care of themselves so its always worse on them. I could go on and on about this *sigh*
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Re: I'll get him a noose for Christmas
by Eris_Riot on Oct 17, 2002 - 09:47 PM
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I hear what you are saying.
My brother and sister in law are pretty much still kids themselves, and on August 4, 2002, they brought my nephew Brenden Jayce into this fucked up world. Now, 10 weeks later, I am very scared my bother is about to pull something drastic....possibly killing all three of them.
They are flat broke. I'm gonna say that up front. It also doesn't help that Bryan and Tesha are money hungry beasts, and they blow every extra cent they get their hands on. Now, I am not one to judge others....I am in no way perfect, but since my nephew is very close to going without, I am standing up to object immensely.
Just today, I gave a huge chunk of MY hard earned money towards their water bill, which was late as fuck. They are also about to be without electricty, and it drives me crazy to think how irresponsible two "adults" can be. God forbid that Bryan not be able to go hunting in South Texas, or that Tesha doesn't get a new outfit. Yet, JJ has no diapers....until his Aunt Kristi bought him some. I want to be his heroine.....a responsible person who cares more about him than anything. I have also sought out the advice of a lawyer on what rights I might have, but, unfortuneatly, they are few and far between. If I DO have some kind of chance, money talks, and I have none to spare. Yet, I have to tell you, I would give my last dime to make sure he is safe. So, DarkMistress, keep your chin up. Kick your brother's ass, and find your nephew!!
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Guns work much better...
by MorteAscendo (corpsmanwix@aol.com)
on Oct 18, 2002 - 12:09 AM
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Thin the masses thats what i say.
People are to make there own decisions about things. Fuck, if you can prove that she is a bad mother, then call Social Services, shit he might go to a home, but they might find a better one then that...
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Re: Guns work much better... by bettie_x (strangersangel@hotmail.com) on Oct 18, 2002 - 11:17 PM (User info | Send a Message) http://bettie_x.tripod.com/ | See, that's not such a bad idea, tho...he might end up in a home, THEIRS (the concerned relative). The first concern of child protective services when they remove a child from a dangerous/neglectful home is to keep the child in the family (or have the child eventually in the hands of family when the matter is settled). If you can provide a safe home, and can care for a child, then you've got a fighting chance. One woman I see at work occasionally took on her sister's kids...she didn't have the money to do so, and the state sent her monthly "child support" checks to help her out just to keep the kids together and in the family.
It's something to look into. |
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Re: Guns work much better... by DarkMistress on Oct 19, 2002 - 08:16 AM (User info | Send a Message) | We called the child neglect center and told them where his wife lives. They gave her a week to clean up her house; it must have been terrible. She went on a bit of a rampage and started pointing fingers at everybody. But anyway, if she can't keep him (and hopefully she can't) there's plenty of family that will take care of him. I'm just a kid myself and I could raise him and take care of him (as a good parent). It makes you wonder though, when you see all these new parents out there who beat and hit their children, swearing and yelling at them in public, were they raised like that? |
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Re: Guns work much better... by MorteAscendo (corpsmanwix@aol.com) on Oct 19, 2002 - 06:12 PM (User info | Send a Message) http:// | Most likely....i lived in Moreno Valley California for like 13 years....and i lived in a fairly decent home....but growing up to my next door neighbors, and watching there kids go bad just from neglect or violence from within, its sad now because i lost track of "Little" Eric, and he was such a smart kid, my mom wanted to take him we where that worried, but sometimes there is just nothing you can do...and it does sadden me....such as life |
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Re: Guns work much better... by DarkMistress on Oct 19, 2002 - 06:16 PM (User info | Send a Message) | you'd think growing up like that would help you to make sure your own kids don't grow up like that. People work in stupid ways.
But really, if you've read The Child Called It, that guy could have grown up to be homicidal but he turned it into something positive. So I guess it's nice to know some people can see the mistakes their parents made (and his mother was a pyscho bitch) and learn from them, so that they don't do the same things to their kids. |
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Re: Guns work much better... by dementia_addams on Oct 26, 2002 - 02:17 AM (User info | Send a Message) | I am extremely thankful that I am not growing up in a home like that. My family has problems, but none so fucked up as those.
I feel so sorry for families that have to put up with that kind of shit. I have known many kids who have gone through their lives with parents as sorry as your brother and sister in law are. My Aunt and two cousins are living in a broken home. My Aunt is the sweetest woman that you would ever meet, but my Uncle (or formerly my uncle, they are going through a divorce) is an undiagnosed schitzophrenic. He started hearing voices that were not there, making tapes of my Aunt with conversations that only he thought were there. He believes that she's a crack whore who invites her pimps over to stay at the house, and that the younger child, (who is 13) is easy to fuck by his mother's pimps, just like her. It's sad. He no longer lives with them (thank god) but all that my family can do is watch the horrible things unfold. |
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Re: I'll get him a noose for Christmas
by bettie_x (strangersangel@hotmail.com)
on Oct 26, 2002 - 10:10 PM
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I also forgot to add, that strep is an intensely destructive virus, especially if left unchecked (which can easily happen) or even if treated. I have a friend who's best friend went in with a sore throat she got from her daughter, was given antibiotics and sent home, came back three days later with an ear ache, given ear drops and sent home, then a couple days later came back with a sore shoulder, given a sling and sent home, then the next day went into respitory arrest and taken to the hospital. The strep virus had gone from her throat to hear ear, then pocketed in her shoulder and spread through her lymph system to her whole body. She swelled up with water (from non functioning kidneys) from 100lbs to 210lbs, and lost both her feet and three fingers. She went into cardiac arrest FIVE TIMES.
Pnemonia is also very difficult, but not as untreatable and fatal as strep. It's sad, but true.
It doesnt mean they weren't neglected as you said, but sometimes even with the best care the worst can happen.
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