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Articles: The Budget Dungeon: A B&D Primer |
Posted by
Domkitten on Thursday, January 16, 2003 - 04:06 AM PST
So you woke up one morning and thought to yourself “Hey, I like pain.” What a wonderful feeling to finally come to terms with the fact that you, like so many others, are into that weird sick fetishistic world of B&D. There is also a far sicker world of S&M, but I think that, for the point of this article anyway, it is better to stick with B&D. Now, you have a big question to answer: “What am I going to do about it?”
Well, for starters you might go poking around on the internet and you will see all kinds of wonderful, interesting, exciting, and even arousing things. Whips, chains, cuffs, nipples, cock-rings, it’s a whole world of fetish out there. You might even be interested in acquiring some of these toys to assist you in your own need to submit or to dominate and that is where the trouble usually begins. Money.
Generally if you are into this particular scene, you are down and out, broke, living at home, collecting unemployment, or a starving artist. Either way, you don’t have the cash you need to get a well stocked dungeon. Usually, unless you a re a professional it can be very difficult to have enough money on hand to supply yourself with some decent equipment without breaking the bank. Well, this is where I can help you a little bit. Myself, I’m frequently without money when I need to tie up someone I love, so I learned to improvise (being a creative artist type) and I’ve decided to share some of that with others in the same space.
First, as far as information goes about B&D why shell out allot of money when you can spend $2.50 on a coffee and sit in Border or Barnes and Nobles and read books like “Screw the Roses Give me Thorns” “The Bottoming Book” “The Topping Book”, etc, etc. Hell, there are so many good books out there for fetish I could make an article out of that, but I won’t. Buy a notebook, bring a pencil, take notes. Total cost, $5.00 if you are spendy (expensive pencil or something).
Secondly, for a small amount of money, say between $25 and $50 dollars, you can actually equip yourself very nicely. I’m not just talking about some rope, I’m talking serious equipment. Your best friend is the local hardware store. I’ve always been a fan of Ace Hardware, but that was primarily because it was within walking distance of my home. However a good Home Despot (or Depot) or a Meanard’s can do just as well. Generally it should have a decent selection, so the bigger the better. If you are really out in the boonies with no access to a good hardware store you can also get creative at your local Wal-mart, goddess knows those are everywhere. So now that you know where to go, where to start.
Begin by making a list. What do you want? What are you into? What do you need?
Should you get restraints first? What about whipping if your girlfriend is dying for a spanking? What about something more creative like a dildo or plugs? Generally it is best to start out simple. Let’s begin with restraints.
Restraints can be wonderfully simple, as I mentioned earlier a couple of good lengths of rope will do the job nicely. Head to your local hardware store and check out the rope collection, it’s always good to have some on hand, for those just in case emergencies; and they won’t set off the alarm at the airport. There are a lot of amazing things you can do with rope for bondage. While you are at Barnes and Noble see if you can get Asia Bound, with gorgeous pictures of Asian Bondage. Now, rope is nice, but you want something more heavy duty. What to do? No problem. Go to the lawn and garden section, there you can usually buy lengths of chain by the yard. Believe it or not chain is super cheap and you can have them cut it at the store to the exact size you want. Hell bring your girl or boyfriend and you can have the fun of a little humiliation by having them offer the arm or wrist for measurement. I love to multitask.
While acquiring chain you can also zip around to the locks section and pick up a few key locks which will work just as well as a handcuff if applied properly. Just don’t loose those keys. If you want to be really crazy get combos and make your partner remember the combination, hehe. Anyway, chains can be looped, locked, and tied together in any way, shape, form and configuration your sick twisted mind can come up with. Total cost for rope chains and locks in a good length for hands, feet, or the waist should run you no more than $7 or $8 dollars.
While your at the hardware store head over to the animal section. Almost every hardware store I have ever been in has a pet supply section. While you’re their why don’t you pick up some of the $1 dollar cat and dog collars. The kitty collars make great bracelets and can be used as a restraint in a pinch. Loop two kitty collars together, buckle around hands, bingo. Usually you can get the kinds that do not have a breakaway part at the hardware store. If they do not have a breakaway free collar you can break it yourself and replace the piece with embroidery floss or something more heavy duty. And well, a studded collar is a nice fashion accessory any day.
Now you have some restraints, but you want more, more, more. No problem. While you’re in the rope section get some nylon rope, or other rope that unbraids very easily. You want something you can untwist down to the fibers. Pick up about three yards of that. Head over to bath, plumbing, and closets section and look for dowel rods. These are wooden sticks in various shapes and sizes. Pick a rod that has a decent weight and feels good in your hand. Buy one or two, depending on the money on hand. They usually run between .60 cents to $2.00. A hint, some of the smaller dowel rods are quite springy and make excellent make-shift riding crops. Poke around and find a hot glue gun, which will shortly become your best friend. While your shopping picking up an exacto-knife, a file, or a small handsaw could also be a good idea, but if you have a serrated knife in the kitchen you aren’t married to then you don’t really need a knife. Head over to the lamp section and buy about 3 yards of strung shot-bead (like on a metal lamp cord or key chain). Pick up a roll of duck tape. Total cost will be between $15 and $20 dollars.
Now with these supplies you can easily make at least three different types of floggers. Using a knife cut the dowel rods down to handle sizes. Cut the rope that frays easily into about three lengths of the same size, at least 2 feet each. Fray that rope like crazy. Bend the frayed rope in half and use a piece of duck tape in the middle to hold it onto the end of one of your dowel rod handles. Use the hot glue to help keep the duck tape in place, and use a second piece of duck tape around the whole thing so it won’t slip. Bad-a-boom, horsetail flogger. If you’re a creative type knock yourself out painting it. If not, hell, nothing is more Industrial Goth then duck tape, it’s all silver and shiny.
Shot beads can be used the same way. Cut the lengths into 9 inch long pieces. Use the hot glue to glue one end of the beads to a dowel handle. Wrap with duck tape to hold in place. Be sure to check the loose ends that will be the flogger to make sure that there are no sharp metal points, but hell if you are into pain, who cares. This little whip can be a real doosey, use with care. I recommend rolling it over raised welts, because the metal will be quite cool, rather than using it to lash. However, if used properly you can raise rows of welts with identical little bumps, an amazing effect for the welt connoisseur.
You can also use just plain lengths of rope in the same way. Cut them into even 1 foot lengths. Glue one end to a dowel handle, tie knots on the other ends. Now you have a Cat-o-Nine tails. Use duck tape to hold the glued ends in place. I find it best to use both hot glue and duck tape, because the pieces can slip from the tape, but if you glue it as well they should last a lifetime. Now you have three floggers, and if you brought those little switch size dowels you have a few riding crop type things as well.
While at that hardware store you can get really crazy by picking up some D-clamps. By stringing a lot of rope through the D-clamps you can turn even a headboardless bed into a restraint paradise. I used D-clamps and rope once to turn a coffee table into a winch type bondage table, which was lovely for the girl who was strung up. The hardware store is full of things you can use in bondage, keep your eyes out and your mind open and you can find all kinds of things you can use in play.
Checking out your local thrift store is also a good idea, for a few bucks you can buy belts that can easily be turned into leather cuffs if you have a little time to kill. You can also find belts made of braided leather, which can be unbraided to make all sorts of whips. Just follow the tips laid out above. Also an old coat can easily become a straight jacket. Again, bring the boy or girl victim and find a great big coat with sleeves way to long. Use some old belts to make buckles and boom, straightjacket.
The important thing to learn here is not to limit yourself. Just because it’s not fancy and shiny and black does not mean that you can’t use it on your loved one. Me, I always liked the personal touch of using a handmade whip. There is no reason to have to spend a fortune to get a good spanking. Hell, among other things you can get at the hardware store are a paddle (sports section, table tennis rackets), a wicked cane (length of pvc pipe), spreader bars (pvc pipe with rope strung through it, use chains for cuffs on either end), and gummy bears (by the counter when you check out).
There is a world of Fetish out there. Play careful and be informed. I really recommend that trip to Borders or B and N first so you know what to do and what not to do. When playing always make sure you have the keys, a pair of scissors and some band aids on hand. Scissors are especially important with rope so you can cut it quickly.
Hopefully this has given the penniless masses out there some interesting tips and ideas. Toss in more comments as I’m always trying to expand my personal toy chest.
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by IamSquid (undisclosedgettheaddressfrommeepersonally)
on Jan 16, 2003 - 05:06 AM
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Pet stores are, in my opinion, the best suppliers of fetish gear. I love dog choke collars but one of my newest toys is one of those dog training collars with the remote control!
Actually I was considering having a contest where I play slave for a day! Basicly for 24 hours, one lucky lady gets my company and the remote control. I can say no to any demands the Mistress might make but she can shock mee for any reason at all (including no reason at all).
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Wrong in the first paragraph.
by Monolycus on Jan 16, 2003 - 08:24 AM
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Despite your self-proclaimed expertise in the matter, you begin by stating that enjoying pain is the realm of B&D, and that S&M is sick. Apart from being judgemental, it is flatly incorrect. B&D (for bondage and discipline) has primarily to do with restraint; if you are into pain then you are into the "sickness" of S&M (shorthand for sadomasochism). You could very easily have covered the whole gamut by (correctly) describing these as D/s (Dominance/submission) which would cover all of these bases.
I expect that people will rush to your defense here and tell me that I have no sense of humour and that I missed the point. I couldn't care less. If you are going to pretend to be an authority, you should at least get the jargon down.
~Monolycus.
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Re: The Budget Dungeon: A B&D Primer
by Starlight (gwendydd@dazedandconfused.com)
on Jan 17, 2003 - 02:15 AM
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Most of my exposure to the subject has been lumped into a larger category of BDSM, which I would assume is to lump it all together to avoid anyone arguing over the separation of Bondage and Domination from Saddo-Massochism (or Slave-master as I've also heard it referred to). I used to sort of daydream about it when I was younger, and online it was really exciting at times. However, at this point I've seen and heard so many things, and in my previous marriage I had things done to me that just didn't really make me too fond of the whole BDSM idea for myself personally.
In spite of my previous marriage, my husband and I wanted to give it a try in r/t anyways. Just to see if we wanted that to be a part of our lives. We had some really good sessions, and while I'd always been rather Dominant in online settings, I found that in r/t I got rather into being the submissive. We tried it both ways and it was sort of weird, but we just realized one day we weren't really incorporating spankings and nipple clamps into our sex life anymore. We also weren't going into BDSM places online anymore either. It was like we got over it or something and we really laughed about it when we realized it, because we'd actually met online in an Amazon-themed roleplay BDSM room.
We just discovered that in r/t neither of us wanted that permanently, but hey it's left us with some really interesting memories. *wicked wicked grinz*
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Re: The Budget Dungeon: A B&D Primer
by feralucce on Jan 17, 2003 - 08:12 AM
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From my heart... thank you for making a distinction between this... and D/s... so many people assume they are the same thing. I will admit, Dominance and submission and BDSM are intriniscly linky in many situations, they are not the same... *grins and claps*
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Re: The Budget Dungeon: A B&D Primer
by callei on Jan 17, 2003 - 10:45 AM
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One more idea to remember...
If you are going to have safe sex (the kind that probably wont kill you) then you buy the condoms. If you are a fool, you buy the cheapest and think that they are fine.
If you are going sky diving, you go to someone who knows and they walk (jump?) you through it with special (more expensive) equipment.
If you want to learn about D/s, DONT buy the cheap robe and scissors and try to make it all up yourself. NEVER use pantyhose, bungycords (I know what some of you are going to say, but stop and think about newbies here), silk ties (or nylon for that matter), anything you havent washed REALLY REALLY well, or most of the other things you find around the house.
You can (and will) damage yourself and others.
Spend the 30 bucks and buy the velco closure restrains somewhere. They may not be the sexiest but they are the safest for learning the ropes (ahem).
Spend the extra money to buy a meant-for-human-necks collar so that you dont damamge someones vertebrae, skin, or esophegus.
Always remember the lube. Buy the good stuff. it goes farther (ahem), lasts longer (ahem), and is safer for all parties involved.
Never do anything that you cant talk about clearly first. If you cant articulate what you want well enough for the other person(s) to really understand, you wont get what you want and neither will they. If you are afriad to talk about sex in gritty reality-based detail, then you probably arent ready to have it.
I have said it before and I will say it again, sex is too important to leave to chance.
read the books and talk to people about what they have done. This is a social sport and people are always willing to share thier experience. And after all you want to play with someone else anyways.
just like with other kinds of intimacy (read sex for those of you will small imaginations (ahem)), wash your hands, ask questions, answer questions, pay attention, and act with kindness.
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Re: The Budget Dungeon: A B&D Primer
by Shade (Shade@Gothcult.com)
on Jan 17, 2003 - 12:05 PM
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Let's start with the fact that sex is not weird or sick, it's just sex. if you have sex in a way that your surrounding society finds different...maybe you're just having more fun. The only sickness involved in sex is when you try to deny who you are.
Second, if you're going to tie someone down with chain, don't even buy the stuff until you own a bolt cutter and -know- you can cut either the chain you use or the lock itself (think 'are you strong enough?') If the house catches fire, or you do lose the key. well, without bolt cutters, either option is going to lead to some seriously undesired results.
Third. if you're married and want to stay married, here's the place to start introducing the idea. If your spouse doesn't know you have an interest in BdSm, why not tell hir? It could save alot of confusion later on when they ask "what is this strange ball of fluff tied to a dowel?"
Fourth, if you are into pain, does that mean you like infection? Not in my experience. If you are into giving pain, it is your responsibility to guarantee a safe environment, and sharp pieces of metal are not something to play with unless it's already been discussed, you have a funcional autoclave (not a budget item) and a very well stocked first aid kit. So file those edges until they don't scrape the rough off a fine grain emory board.
All in all, 8 out of ten points for trying to supply the budget dungeon, but 4 points for execution. There is so much more that goes into even playing around with BdSm that supplying the means to do so without any kind of instruction is just irresponsible. You get Kudos for saying read a book and keep scissors and bandaids, but we're talking about bodily fluids here. if you do anything that requires bandaids, make certain you have some form of antibacterial. Neosporin for abrasions, bactine for punctures and cuts, 911 for any really bad whoopses.
My biggest issues here are the mind and the heart. With the subtext of your article you have set up an atmosphere of deceit and uncaring. A submissive who is being truely dominated usually reaches a state much like hypnosis. Mistakes can reawaken old traumas and if you go into that with a callous mind and lies (even if they are to a third party) already surrounding your activities, you run the serious risk of creating a very unhappy play space. The sub/masochist could come out of your loveplay with more issues than when they went in, and the top/sadist could come out seriously doubting their own sexuality.
Just to reiterate, DomKitten, your article wasn't entirely bad, it was incomplete and you should have been more careful with your flip asides. And remember the important expenses.
"Play careful and be informed. I really recommend that trip to Borders or B and N first so you know what to do and what not to do." -from the end of the article.
And if you still have questions, please ask, don't leap into it without at least having some idea of what you are doing. If everyone took this kind of care with their sexuallity, even the straight, vanilla types would be happier.
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Re: The Budget Dungeon: A B&D Primer
by Merry_Widow on Jan 17, 2003 - 12:29 PM
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So, why is being into this stuff sick?
If you want to aqquire these items cheaply, there are several companies who will gladly send you their catalouge in which they sell safe, sanitary supplies meant for use on people. They are very often cheap, sometimes right down to the wholesale value. You don't need to scrimp on safety to save a few bucks.
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Re: The Budget Dungeon: A B&D Primer
by Comedian (eccentrically_long@yahoo.com)
on Jan 19, 2003 - 01:25 AM
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I get bored. I read articles. Randomly, not paying much attention. And then I come to this stuff, leave the room, call the Irishman for about half an hour then wonder how people can do this stuff to eachother.
Hell, I'm a big proponent of "Food is better than Sex." So it should be considered something pretty nasty that someone's sexual behaviors put in type make me lose my lunch.
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Re: The Budget Dungeon: A B&D Primer
by Dolorosa (SixOfSwords@IU.zzn.com)
on Jan 20, 2003 - 07:18 PM
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Hmm...this is like an attempt at an X-Rated Macgyver produced by Dan Quayle. Wheres my remote?
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