Three to a bed
Date Thursday, March 28, 2024 - 12:06 PM PST
Topic Smut


Sleeping in a bed with two other people is different from sleeping with one other person - Much different. It is natural for people who are not used to this kind of sleeping arrangement to treat it the same as sleeping with one other person. This usually leads to it not happening again. If you would like more people in your bed on a regular basis, here are some things you might want to think about.

The Middle
Choosing who gets to sleep in the middle can be an interesting dilema. If you just jump in and claim the middle, you will probably be making several mistakes, as well as looking extremely selfish. Generally for a couple sleeping with a new person, it's best to put the new person in the middle. Putting the new person there is a good way of keeping them from feeling like the outsider and feeling like they shouldn't be there. Since both halves of the couple have presumably snuggled each other countless times already, this gives each of them the opportunity to snuggle the new person. It also avoids problems that can arise if the half of the couple in the middle inadvertantly rolls over in the middle of the night, giving the outside person the cold shoulder.

If two of the three people are not a couple, then you'll need to find another way to choose the middle person. Ideally, two people will be side-sleepers, and one person will be a back sleeper. The back sleeper should always be in the middle if there are no other deciding factors. Other deciding factors would include a mixed sex triad where one of the same-sex people is not bisexual, or any triad where two of the three have less of an attachment to each other than to the third person. If none of these apply, consider body temperatures, and how often each person usually gets up in the middle of the night.

Rolling over
Most people roll over a few times during the night. When sleeping with one other person, this is not a big deal, but with two, it can create issues. If the person in the middle rolls over to face one person or the other, the person they turn their back to may feel like they are getting the cold shoulder. It's easier to be diplomatic when awake, but when sleeping, people tend to snuggle in the direction of the least tension. If there are any unresolved issues between the middle person and one of the outside people, the middle person will most likely spend most of the night facing away from them. This almost always causes the issues to be twice as bad in the morning. Resolving all issues before bed is far more important when sleeping this way.

Of course, sometimes people will sleep one way or another just for the sake of comfort. If these will be your regular sleeping arrangements, I'd recommend the outside people switch places every other night to avoid anyone thinking the above dynamic is happening when it is not. Also, if the middle person wakes up enough when rolling over, they can try to remember to grab the hand of the person they're turning away from and either hint for them to roll with them (into a spoon position), or just keep holding the hand. Just the reminder that nobody is being ignored can be enough to ward off any bad feelings in the morning. The outside people can also use this when rolling away from the middle person to remind them that they are just getting comfortable, and not giving the cold shoulder. Of course, if they really are giving the cold shoulder, it's a good indication that one of the people in the bed should be on the couch.

Temperature
One thing that is rarely given much thought is that the person on the inside will get warmer than the outside people. When you're only sleeping with one person, or are on the outside of a three person bed, you can move the blankets half off of you without disturbing anyone else's comfort. When you're in the middle, you would have to pull the blankets off of one of the outside people to cool off. Pretty much all you can do is keep your arms out of the blankets, and maybe your chest if you can. The outside people need to keep this in mind. If you're on the outside, it is considerate to expect to be a little colder than you are used to in order to keep the middle person from overheating. Lifting the blankets every once in a while to let in some cooler air is a nice thing to do. The middle person may be sleeping or otherwise distracted, so if you notice them sweating when there is no strenuous activity going on, do them a favor and cool them off.

Smut
I'm not going to get into the possibilities for sexual combinations offered by this sleeping arrangement. That subject is best left to the imagination of the reader. However, I think it's prudent to bring up a few points. If it was easy to choose the middle person based on the hints above, then there should be no problems. Otherwise, you'll need to be careful to make sure everyone gets the proper ammount of attention. It might be a good idea to start the evening with a different person in the middle if one person requires more sexual attention than sleeping snuggle attention. Making sure everyone gets enough sex will go a long way towards discouraging cold shoulder issues later in the night. Unless there is a specific reason not to, it's good to plan on putting each person in the middle at some point during your play.

Sleep
Presumably the reason these sleeping arrangements were chosen is so that some sexual activity could occur. For the first few nights, everyone will probably agree on when, and for how long this will go on. However after the novelty wears off, it is likely that one person will need more sleep than the other two. If one person has to wake up early, it is polite to wait until they leave to have sex without them. Fooling around can usually be done without waking the third person up, but if it leads to other things and you are sure the sleeping person doesn't want to wake up and join, consider getting up and going to another room. Just be sure this is ok with the sleeping person beforehand.

Sleeping with two other people can be far more rewarding than sleeping with one person (in all kinds of ways). However it can be much harder to do on a regular basis. If you avoid thinking that it should be the same as sleeping with one person, you should have a much easier time. Hopefully these hints will be of some help. If you have any other suggestions, please post them in the comments.

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