Relationships take work and knowledge
Date Thursday, March 28, 2024 - 03:14 AM PST
Topic Smut


For those of you with time on your hands, an explorative mind, and are at least 18 years old (depending on your country or state), I would like to pose an "exercise". The purpose of the exercise is to offer you a chance to see some other ways of thinking about sexual relationships and get your questions voiced. I am not an "authority" and, to my knowledge, no one here has their clinical sexology degree or is a registered counselor or therapist of any state board. But some of us have been around a while and are willing to talk about it.

What I/We (speaking for the other members here) can offer is the chance to see what is out there and be accepted for questioning it. I won’t tell you one thing is more right than another. I won’t tell you that one thing is less right than another. I am just providing a set of ideas that you can look at, think about, and, hopefully, de-mystify in your own minds.

http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html

http://www.master.webcentral.com.au/abis/undersub.html

http://www.emory.edu/COLLEGE/HYBRIDVIGOR/issue1/mating.htm

Here are three "types" of sex/relationship and all the articles are long and totally non-sexy, or at least mostly non-sexy.

Questions:

Why do you shy away from reading the whole thing?
Which one makes you "fight back" the most?
Which one made you doubt your views?
Which one made you think about your views?
Why do you think that (insert idea here) is "wrong"?
Why do you want to try (insert idea here)?
Which one makes you the most curious to learn more?
Which one makes you feel that you have learned more than you wanted?
What comes to mind first when you think back on what you have read?
Why are you answering these questions?
A few notes:

I couldn’t find an article about monogamy that spoke about it as a sex/relationship style between people, only as one between a person and their god. If you can find one, I would love to read it. Please send it my way.

I would really love to see any answers you come up with. I repeat that I will not judge you for them, whatever they may be. And yes, you can rant at me all you want. I may even write back.

For those of you who wonder why there is no article about being "gay", that isn’t a sex/relationship style. It is a matter of partner style, not relationship style. Gay people have monogamous relationships, polyamorous relationships, and BDSM relationships. So why should I single out "gayness"?



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