In the spirit of zen and balance, and because everyone voted for it, the
next forum game is to see who can say the nicest things about callei
This one should be easy since she's obviously brilliant and amazing.
Remember, compliments work best if they're true.
Rules are similar to the Roasts:
1) They can't protest or say you're full of shit - they have to accept the
compliments
2) Whoever says the nicest things is next
Start polishing
____________________ So Sayeth Me
Cashmere
Member
Posts: 58 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 12/2/2004 at 10:01 PM
Callei is one of those very specal people whose smile can transform the
entire world around them. There is such an overwhelming power to her
presence that is somehow magnified when she smiles. She has the warmest
smile I have ever seen. You don't even need to see it in order to know
that. It comes through her speech, her written word, whenever she is happy.
She has this way of making time disappear when engaged in dialogue; entire
hours pass by and seem like nothing at all. She earned the title "Phone
Card Vacuum."
She is one of the most honest people I have ever met, and one of the
bravest. It takes courage to be honest about yourself and those you care
about. When I was in the most confusing part of my life Callei was the only
person with enough guts to be honest and help me without ulterior motives.
She knows herself, and not many people can lay claim to that. She is more
powerful because of that knowledge; she knows what she wants, what she
needs, and the difference between the two. And she knows when somethign
that is a want becomes a need. Come to think of it, I have a hard time
noting something that she doesn't know, except maybe the chemical
composition of acrylic paint. I wouldn't bet money on that though.
She has a clarity to her thought that makes it easy to see what she is
saying. And she makes clear thought seem easy. She is the only person I
have never misunderstood. She was able to take some repressed sixteen year
old catholic and turn it into something semidecent. The best parts of me
were able to come out because of her.
Besides, she makes lime green tie dye look good. Who else can lay claim to
that? Especially with those striped socks.
____________________ "Truth is always on the move. It is always somewhere, but never in the
foreground, never on the surface."
-Franz Marc
Anya
Extreme Fanatic
Posts: 656 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 12/2/2004 at 10:19 PM
I don't know how you feel about me, but you have many great qualities that
I admire.
Intelligence - Despite our differing opinions on certain things,
you still have intelligence. Having intelligence doesn't always have to
mean political correctness or agreement. You know most [if not all] of
your stuff and you have no problem showing it. You and Shade also have a
way of putting things into perspective, even if it's just for the sake of
controversy.
Humour - Whether people think it's dry or not, you have a sense of
humor. Some people out there just do not know how to take a joke. There
is a time to be serious, of course, but there is also a time when people
should take a moment to relax. You sure can do this.
Opinionated - This trait is arguably good or bad. To me,
however, it is good. It means that you have picked your path and walk it.
That path may change, but not without a stronger wind to blow you in a
different one. While no one [sometimes even me] may not agree with you,
you are still a human with an opinion of your own...which, you should be
entitled to.
Charisma - Something about you sways people to at least give you
a good look...something about you makes me admire you. Maybe it's the
status, the intelligence, or something...spiritual...you sure have this
trait. Something construct seems to tug me toward you.
Physical Appearance - I normally do not dig for too slender, but
you are an exception. Unlike the models on TV, you have a more classical
look. This classicness makes you very, very attractive. You're not out
getting implants, getting any lypo's, or anything related to altering your
appearance. You're all natural.
Vibe - You have it. You have the sight beyond sight in your own
way. Some people are just too clue less to find this trait. You do not.
You are human - Not sure if this is taken personal or not, but you
are human. You make mistakes, you learn, and you have your own perspective
of enlightenment. Like everyone else, you have your views on how things
should be.
Damn good grammar - You and Meranda Jade are the reason why my
grammar has improved dramatically compared to a year or two ago. My
writing used to make people's eyes bleed, but now I know that most of those
errors are cleaned up and I can eventually become a successful writer.
Much effort - You put much effort into what you do. Most, if not
all of your posts have been well thought through, give interesting
information and view points, and have been educational or insightful in
some form or another. Keep it up, your voice should be heard.
Helpful - This could almost coincide with the grammar issue, but
you have been very helpful on not only grammar, but giving me ideas and
tips to revise my writing on the subjects that I write about. For instant,
you will explain that I need more or less detail in something, help with
grammar and historical terms, and so forth.
Great Mistress Manners - This has to be one of the most noticable
things about you. When something gets out of control, you step in and say
it. In fact, if it is an issue, you'll rat out the individual(s) being the
problem. Much order is established with you and your long ruler. While
you sometimes can be harsh, sometimes it's called for to teach a lesson to
all involved.
Wisdom - Not only do you have intelligence, but you have wisdom to
work with it, as well. You know when to exert your will and when to
not.
Awareness - Unlike a lot of people, you look at yourself often and
are aware of your surroundings as well as yourself. Granted, you're still
human, but you're far from clueless. People can learn from your example.
Willpower - Sometimes I get the vibe that you really want to do
something, but you hold yourself from some reason. This is definitely
willpower in the work, either way. Also, without willpower, how could you
have dealt with my past errors?
It's good to have people like you on this planet. In time, I have grown to
respect you.
callei
Extreme Fanatic
Posts: 759 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 13/2/2004 at 10:49 AM
Anya you are going to be a great writer. Especially when you learn to trust
yourself. I want to say publicly that i am more critical of you because i
see more potential in you that even you do.
Cash, I love you too, and you added more to my life than i could have ever
added to a life as rich as yours is.
____________________ Real goths wear silver and crosses to keep the werewolves and vampires
away.
Anya
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Posts: 656 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 14/2/2004 at 12:55 AM
Ohhhh, another quality I like about you. You have that "harshness" part of
you, but are not too extreme with it. Some part of me, deep inside, likes
that "tough woman" thing. It makes you the discipline woman. Your
personality gives that whip-cracking feeling on the "darker" sides. People
like you make people question if they need self-improvement or have harder
skin.
Cashmere
Member
Posts: 58 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 14/2/2004 at 09:01 AM
And even with her typos she always has impeccable grammar.
____________________ "Truth is always on the move. It is always somewhere, but never in the
foreground, never on the surface."
-Franz Marc
Meranda_Jade
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Posts: 511 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 14/2/2004 at 07:03 PM
Callei has so many wonderful qualities, it's hard to think of them all in a
sitting. I'm sure I'm leaving vital things out... When I think of them,
I'll post again.
Callei was easy to talk to the first time I chatted with her. She gained my
trust quickly, which was surprising because I can be very guarded
sometimes. I can talk to her about anything and she always listens and
gives me hugs and good advice. She is so much fun, someone I would hang out
with often if we lived nearby. She's comfortable to be around. She has an
inner fire that is as beautiful, if not more beautiful than she is on the
outside. She glows. She is good-hearted. She'll do anything in her power to
help a friend. She is one of the most interesting people I've ever met in
my life. She has great strength of will, not many people have the kind of
strength she has. She is honest and will tell it like it is, even if the
truth hurts. I value that in a friend. She is one of the most determined
people I've ever seen. She can do everything she puts her mind to. She has
a way of gaining everyone's respect and regard. It's her self-confidence
and self-awareness that does it, I think. Plus, she has these wonderful
deep brown eyes that seem to see right into your soul. She has made me
see more in myself than I ever would have on my own. She shines up her
friends until they too, glow beside her.
Callei, you've made a great impression on my life. You mean more to me
than I can put into words. I'm glad you're my friend.
____________________
callei
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Posts: 759 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 14/2/2004 at 07:17 PM
I love you too Meranda_Jade. Its going to be nice to hang out again this
summer. I never seem to find the right words to tell you how much you have
taught me and how much i respect you. Thanks for the love darlin'
____________________ Real goths wear silver and crosses to keep the werewolves and vampires
away.
Domkitten
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Posts: 470 Registered: 23/9/2002 Status: Offline
posted on 15/2/2004 at 02:52 AM
Callei is a genuine person, and I like her because of that. She takes no
shit and speaks her mind and you have to respect that.
She's well thought out, and she knows her shit, and you have to respect
that too.
You can love her and you can hate her, but you'll still talk to her, which
makes her one of the few people I know with that qualitiy.
Callei is cool.
____________________ It's like kegel exercises for your throat.~Monolycus
Monolycus
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Posts: 580 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 15/2/2004 at 06:39 AM
All kidding aside, Plyn represents a first line of defense between us and
the average idiot. We might complain about the stupidity of the articles,
but most of what we get subjected to has been thinned out by her first.
That's enough to make anyone pretty damned grumpy. And, to give credit
where it is due, she is pretty damned good about giving credit where it is
due. She is quick to encourage potential and doesn't coddle or take
excuses. This site would probably not exist if it weren't for someone with
the amount of patience she has to keep separating the wheat from the chaff.
And I also happen to know that she stands by those fortunate enough to
gain her friendship.
Most of the time, you only see her bare her fangs out of necessity... but
Plyn is a damned good person and we are very fortunate to have her around
in the capacity that we do. And she should be reminded of it every now and
again. Plyn, sincerely, thank you for all that you do.
~M.
callei
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Posts: 759 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 15/2/2004 at 08:52 AM
Thanks guys. I love praise, but bald fact is way more thrilling. Thanks for
noticing.
____________________ Real goths wear silver and crosses to keep the werewolves and
vampires
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away.
Merry_Widow
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Posts: 598 Registered: 24/8/2002 Status: Offline
posted on 15/2/2004 at 11:59 AM
Callei reminds me of my 9th and 10th grade English teacher. (Hear me out,
it's all good.) Callei is someone who knows her grammar, better than just
about anyone. And when she should make a mistake, she is willing to shake
her head and laugh about it, rather than going all spaz. She doesn't demand
respect, she earns it. She holds people to high expectations, and when they
get there, she recognizes that. If they don't get there, she pushes them
until they either drop away like the punks they are, or rise to her
challenge.
On top of all that, she has a grace and humor that comes across in her
writing and in her pictures, and I know that if something has her name on
it, it's going to be an awesome read.
____________________ Okay, dazzle me.
Rogue
Member
Posts: 199 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
posted on 17/2/2004 at 09:27 AM
Callei, you fucking rock. You have taught me so much when I thought there
was no more to learn, and gave me a good backhand to the face when I needed
it. Oh, and you made me ask for and get a 16% raise at work when I was
probably going to just keep quiet and stew until I had to quit. I can never
hope to repay your kindness and wisdom. I'd hit that.
MystryssRavynDarque
Extreme Fanatic
Posts: 648 Registered: 24/9/2002 Status: Offline
posted on 17/2/2004 at 10:33 AM
Oh what can I say about "The Queen of Cool", "The Goddess of Eternal
Beauty"? I can say quite a bit. Callei, you have helped me out so many
times. You have helped me with my math homework, tests, and examinations.
You have helped me with my research papers and essays as the "Grammar
Nazi". You have told me things that I don't really want to hear, but that
I needed to hear. For that I am extremely greatful. Even in your worst of
times you have been there for me. I know that there are not many words
here to tell you how wonderful you truly are, and that is only because they
are locked within my heart. May you receive your pettings well, and enjoy
your cuddlings.
____________________ "People always say what we are looking for is a meaning for life…I don't
think that's what we're looking for. I think what we're looking for is the
experience of being alive." -Joseph Campbell
Devin
Administrator
Posts: 317 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Online
posted on 17/2/2004 at 04:51 PM
I would have posted sooner, but I wanted to wait until I had time to do
this properly. Everyone else has said all the obvious stuff already, she's
pretty and smart, and wise, and kickass, and all of that. Guess I have to
come up with the not so obvious stuff.
Uniquely Sexy
Might as well get this one out of the way first. There's all kinds of
things that make her absolutely sexy. To see what makes her different, you
kinda have to distill it down to the most basic parts. Lots of people have
charm, good looks, and good flirting skills. What she has that's rare is a
way of knowing exactly what people need (not necessarily what they want),
and she knows exactly how and when to give it to them (even if she never
does). She doesn't advertise this, but you just pick it up when you
interact with her. When you're talking to somebody who knows what you
need, you can't help being attracted to them. People like this are very
rare.
Brilliant and Lucid
This one is obvious, but deserves to be repeated.
Knows people
She knows what makes people tick. In general, and for specific people.
She can pick out people's issues and motivations right when she meets them,
and knows why they do things even if they're not sure themselves.
Knows herself
She knows what makes herself tick. She knows what she likes, what she
wants, and what she needs and isn't afraid to ask for them. She also knows
what she doesn't like and doesn't want and doesn't need, and isn't afraid
to knock your punkass down if you try and push those things on her.
Knows her people
I've been asked by more than one person on this site how I know I like them
from just a few short conversations. I always answer that I know my people
when I see them and that I've never been wrong about it. Callei is the
only other person I've seen pick her friends this way. It's not just a
basic first impressions thing - it's a spark that certain people have
that's hard to see but not impossible. I've never seen her be wrong about
it either. Her taste in people is flawless (as you can see when you meet
Shade).
Understands how things work
She understands how people interact. She understands social games and why
they're necessary, and when and how to get away with not playing them. She
understands the cause and effect of human interactions. Anyone who has
ever said "I'll never understand women" - or "I'll never understand men" -
you know what callei understands that you wish you did.
On the vibe
She just naturally understands vibe. I don't think I've ever even had a
conversation with her about what vibe is. It just is, and I've never even
seen any hint that she doesn't get it. She knows how to move it around,
how to move it through wires, and how to just sit and listen to it. A lot
of people here could learn a lot about the subject from her. Unfortunately,
the ones that need to learn it are probably not the ones who would ask.
Has perfect timing
This probably comes from being on the vibe - but her timing is perfect.
She can do the smallest little thing, but she'll do it at the precise time
when it will have the most impact.
Polishes good
I'm constanly polishing people up and trying to make them feel better about
themselves, and make them better people. Once in a while I need a bit of
polishing too - and callei is one of the very few people who can polish me
up properly. Lots of people can make me feel better for a day or 2 - but
her polishing lasts months (if it's not permanent). There's also times and
subjects that I can't help my projects learn, and she's one of the only
people I'd trust with them when they're all fragile.
Flirts differently
Very few people understand that Romance is all about lies and illusion.
Because of that, very few people can flirt without any kind of deception.
Flirting is usually about promising more than you can deliver. Callei
understands what romance is, and how to get the same effects without it -
so her flirting is refreshingly honest and straight up, and she still
manages to make it enthralling. I can't think of anyone else who flirts
that way - but I wish i could.
Can have class
You could take callei to england and she could have tea with the queen, and
the queen would be impressed with her. She just oozes class when it's that
time. When it's not time to be classy, she can be completely goofy and
lime green, or whatever the situation calls for. Just look at her choices
in jobs for proof of this - selling expensive antiques as well as bondage
gear and sex toys.
Has nothing to prove
She doesn't talk about things like how annoying conservative people are,
trying to convince people of her non-conservativeness - instead she tries
to show people how to not be conservative. She doesn't talk about how
smart or goth or cool she is, she doesn't try and show people any of those
things - she just exists and people notice.
Cares when it will do some good
She doesn't waste her time and energy caring about things that don't
matter. If she doesn't like you, it's not because of some annoying thing
you do, it's because she doesn't think there's any hope for you to be a
better person. If you're one of the lucky people that she likes - it's not
because you're just magically cool - it's because you're still progressing
towards being cooler. If she tries to help you with something, it's
because she knows her help would do you a lot of good. Be flattered and
accept it. If she didn't care, she'd just blow you off.
This site exists
This site would simply not exist if it wasn't for her. She does a lot more
than what people see. Yea she edits articles, and smacks the idiots - but
she does a lot more behind the scenes than that. She motivates me to do
all of the tech work, which I would never have been able to keep doing this
long on my own. She helps design and test stuff, and make the upgrades go
smoother. A lot of the things on this site I never would have thought of
on my own. There's way more that I could list, but suffice it to say, she
deserves a lot more credit than she gets from just the "Editor" role that
people see.
There's plenty more nice stuff to say about her, but I gotta leave some for
other people to notice.
____________________ So Sayeth Me
Starlight
Extreme Fanatic
Posts: 618 Registered: 27/9/2002 Status: Offline
posted on 17/2/2004 at 06:53 PM
It's not often you come across someone who appears as multi-faceted as
callei...and actually observe this person to discover she really is that
multi-faceted. I applaud you for that, as most would people couldn't even
begin to pull off the things you succeed at...all the while making it look
easy. You're an awesome creature callei.
____________________ "When choosing between two evils, I always like to try the one I've never
tried before." ~Mae West
This kind of thing is hard for me... as I am excellent at being mean, but
expressing ym true feelings is a bit difficult for me...
I've known you for almost 12 years now. No one has touched my life nearly
as powerfully as you have. you have been a light to my path when my times
were dark... and there were many of those... more than I like to
remember.
you welcomed me as a friend when others considered my to abrasive, too
weird and to scarey to be around.
you spent time listening to me in spite of my problems speaking. When
others cannot stand t listen to my labored speech, you listened and never
once commented on my stutter...
your presence is dazzling... in many ways... the physical, the spiritual,
and the mental...
overall... I am proud to call you friend... I know My polish lacks
finesse... but I only speak the truth...
Feral
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