Subject: Losing animal companions suck, but guess it happens. :(
Anya
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posted on 20/6/2003 at 04:03 PM
This year, I lost a dog from hitting a car and today, lost the other dog
from the same thing...except she was paralyzed. I had to watch the whole
process of her getting X-rayed, hear the news of her spinal cord being
jagged, and see the melancholy in her eyes as the vetenarians give her the
shot...oh well - guess that's how things go...
Maybe it's not the first time this is heard, but from my aspect, losing an
animal companion sucks...especially if you have to watch family members in
tears for it and be there for every minute...
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posted on 20/6/2003 at 10:42 PM
Poor Anya...that sucks. I concur, losing Animal Companions sucks...majorly.
I feel more profoundly when an animal cousin o mine bites it then when a
person does...go figure.
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Anya
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posted on 20/6/2003 at 11:14 PM
It wasn't as much painful when the other dog died...but I guess that's
because it didn't suffer like the one that just died. Guess she was better
off being put to sleep...very active she was - do not know how she'd do not
being able to move half of her body.
And yeah...humans may be "smarter" than other animals, but animals are
superior than us in the sense that they're closer to harmony than we are.
Most species kill for survival or food but otherwise, are often in peace
after that. We go as far as killing for a sport or from being bored. Not
the -best- when a human dies, but just something with pets that give us a
deep connection with them...that can be as much or exceed humane
attachment. My mom's been crying off and on about it...regretting a lot of
things she wished she could have done. Just kind of sucks to see the
sadness in others, as well I guess.
This death hasn't hit me as hard as when my cat Sunday died, but still kind
of aches.
Long story put short, there's some things some people do not see the value
in...especially pets.
Dolo: My mom pretty much has a similar aspect as you...for whatever
reason, she doesn't grieve as much when a human dies...but when an animal
(especially a pet) does, it stings. She's more skeptical than I am when it
comes to humanity.
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posted on 20/6/2003 at 11:19 PM
I still get all choked up when I think about my old dog. We had to have her
put down finally. She was fifteen years old, and felt everyone of those
years. But she was the coolest bestest dog in the world.
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Anya
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posted on 20/6/2003 at 11:28 PM
Sunday was around 17 when we had to put her to sleep (yeah, she been around
since I was a baby and before hand - she died when I was like 10 or
somewhere around there). She caught luchemia *sp?* from another cat.
She'd run dogs off as well as other cats...well, at least until this cat
came along. Was old in cat years, but she fought until we had to put an
end to it...it's been said that if she didn't catch the disease, she could
have put up with life for another couple years.
As anyone here knows, I can tell you 100% that I cried just as hard when
one of my companions died as when someone I cared about died. I cried over
each of my rats for WEEKS, and STILL can't help getting blurry when I talk
about them. Some people see an animal as just an animal, some see them as
sentient beings, I see them as whole personalities, not like our own
personalities, but not any less important. Every single animal I've had in
my life has always been held in the highest regard, and missed even more so
than any person I've ever lost. They are my FAMILY.
I think one thing is the unconditional love. Even dogs that have been
beaten will always return to their "masters" if a kind hand is offered
instead of a hurtful one, even if they know that the hurtful hand will
return in the blink of an eye. When I come home from a crappy day at work
and my husband isn't there to listen to me whine, I have excited faces to
cheer me up, ones that want to sit on my lap and watch tv or play on the
rug. I have the comfort of knowing that no matter what time of the day I
come home, SOMEONE will be there and be happy to see me.
We had a dog that wandered onto our property, and I'd like to get my hands
on whoever had her before us. You couldn't sweep around her, raise your
voice, make any sudden or loud movements, the sight of the bb gun we kept
by the door to scare away coyotes would send her into a panic, and we had
to dope her to the eyeballs every fourth of july. With everything (that I
can only imagine) that had been done to her previously, I've never seen a
dog just so eager to be LOVED. She gave human kind a second chance, one
that we didn't deserve.
You aren't a fool for being so close to your animals. It's a gift that
sadly not everyone can enjoy.
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Anya
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posted on 21/6/2003 at 09:45 AM
Yeah I lit a candle for our dog...just something to show she isn't
forgotten. Also put one of her toys next to it. You know...if there was
an afterlife.
Seems silly to some people here, hehe, but I had to do something in
reminiscence and rememberance.
Kind of hurts though, especially if your mother is still crying off and on
about it. I try to surpress my sadness by the thoughts that say: "Maybe it
was for the best"; "Things may be bad, but maybe they'll get better...just
not the same"; etc. Often though, it's not that simple. Heh.
Regardless of an afterlife or not, funerals aren't for the dead, they're
for the living, so we can have that last chance to formally say goodbye.
The egyptians believed that as long as your name and image were not
forgotten, you'd live forever...so even in conjunction with their journey
to the afterlife, it was very important for those that they left behind to
remember them and carry their name and memory with them so they'd remain
with the living to some extent.
And there's nothing wrong with doing a little something for yourself/your
dog. Think of it this way...if there is no afterlife, you're doing
something to help yourself along. If there is, then puppy dog is
wagging.
I know this is going to sound hokey, but I had a black lab when I was a
kid, and I had a bedroom built in the garage. She slept in the little room
outside my bedroom on the steps going to the house, and sometimes I'd leave
my door open a crack before I fell asleep and she'd poke her head through
in the middle of the night to check on me. I'd pretend to be asleep, of
course, and she'd go back to her bed. After she died, about a week I think
it was, I had not closed my bedroom door all the way and I woke up around 3
in the morning. In the dark at the other end of my room I saw a black dogs
head poking through the opening in the door, check out my room, then back
out. This happened a couple of times, usually when I was having the
hardest of times with things in my life, and it always made me feel better
to wake up and see her checking in on me. If it was really her, then yes,
they do live forever. If it wasn't, then I have a damned fine imagination
that knows when to kick in to make me feel better
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Anya
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posted on 22/6/2003 at 10:26 AM
Yeah I guess it was a way to remember her. The thing that's totally shitty
this week is how my stepdad's grandma died on the same week. So far in the
past seven monthes we lost: stepdad's cousin (like a brother to him);
stepdad's grandma; one dog from car accident; one dog from car accident
that resulted in putting her to sleep.
I could never forget Sunday. She was a damn tough cat and use to be
cuddley with me until I got another cat (she went jealous). Then that cat
was wishing demise on our dogs @_@ heh. Either way, I still loved them
all. Wish I could spend more time with the cat I still have, but my mom
will not let him in the house for long because he hates her guts from
having the dogs in the family.
The big thing my mom regrets is not only was she kind of irritated with
life on the same week (lead her not spending as much time with the dog) and
not so long ago, she was wishing up and down to be left alone. Now she
feels her wishes are coming back to her in three. Guess as they say:
Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it.
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posted on 22/6/2003 at 08:55 PM
I should have responded to this sooner.
Dealing with any loss of life is never a easy burden to bear. It’s just a
sorrow which can never cleared, a hole that can’t be filled. This may not
be the easiest thing to do but like said before, remember the good
memories. Don’t wallow on the sour ones, they’ll only make things worse.
I know how terrible it feels and offer you only my deepest condolences/
apologies for your loss and wish you only the best of luck in the future.
I can understand where you are coming from. When you get a new pet it is s
new baby in the family. Living by myself it is just me rising the baby.
Yet when you have multiple family members, room mates, or friends that
always crash they help raise it to. That pet takes on a little bit of every
ones personality. So when it is lost every one feels it. But the worst is
when one of my friends take one the pet as a familiar. Though I have never
done it I can see how bad it hurts. I never want to feel that, so I have
never done it. In stead I take them on as little brother/sister. It hurts
but nothing like I have seen my friends go though. I envy my pets that have
pasted one though in one way. That is I have never seen the fear of death
in there eyes, no matter how they die. I just wish I could go like that.
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posted on 23/6/2003 at 04:47 AM
I'm so sorry to hear that. I got all upset reading this thread just thinking of how horrible
it would be to lose my dog Pepsi. I would feel so wretched, I can
completely understand where you're coming from. Pets are never 'just
animals', they're completely part of the family and worth the tears that
are shed over them just as much as a human would be. I hope that you start
to feel better soon, though never forget your dog.
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Dolorosa
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posted on 29/6/2003 at 09:15 PM
I have a little pudgy-assed pomeranian named Lucy...she's a little piggy in
dog form I swear, she even has the tail, and whenever I'm feeling horrible,
she come around a flops down in my lap. That whole unconditional love thing
is really endearing. I'd cry if we ever lost her, honestly...
I hope the zombies don't attack down here, it'd be difficult to keep her
alive, and though I'd try, I'd prolly get bit for it, but dammit...It'd be
worth it.
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