Yesterday (friday) I went in for my appointment at Gene Juarez (high priced
professional hair salon) to have my hair lightened...in essence to get the
black out. Why would I do this? Because I'm sick of doing my roots. And
it was an xmas present to my dad. Anyway...
I understood when I went in that I would not leave with my natural shiny
blonde hair. I knew I would not leave with blonde in any way shape or
form. I was starting the process of getting the stubborn black dye out
step by step. I told the girl to just lighten it as much as she could
without destroying my hair.
In essence, I spent 5 hours and $160 and ended up with a cruddy brown dye
job and totally Kentucky Fried hair. I am not exagerating. My hair is
FRIED. I spent three and a half hours tipped back into a sink with
chemicals being applied, rinsed, applied, rinsed. THREE AND A HALF
HOURS.
When I sat in the chair and saw the lightened job before the dye I almost
burst into tears. I held my composure thinking "once the dye is on it'll
be fine". She dyed it, I picked out a light cinnamon red color (red comes
out very easily) and sat as she applied it. She rinsed it out. My hair
felt wierd as she was doing this....like it pulled too much, but I figured
my scalp was just sore and tired from all it's abuse during that horrid 5
hours.
Then we sat and she began to gingerly blow dry it. It took forever....and
I sat on the brink of tears listening to the scritch scritch scritch of
bristles struggling through my hair. When it was done and we were walking
out I touched it and almost lost it all together. If you've ever used
Joico "ice mist" hairspray, then think of what it's like when you douse
your head in it, and then walk out into the rain, and then let it dry.
That is what my hair felt like. And it was brown. Not red, not cinnamon,
but brown.
The color of brown that prompted me to dye it black in the first place a
year ago.
I finally made it to the car, looked in the mirror, felt my hair and LOST
it.
Somehow I calmed down and drove home, only to walk through the door and
explode into tears the minute I saw michael, and proceeded to bawl my head
off on the poor man for almost two hours. My hair is RUINED.
It is slimy feeling when it is wet, sticky feeling when it is half dry (and
impossible to even put a pick comb through at ALL) and stiff and hard when
it finally drys of it's own accord. Dare I say "crunchy".
I just used a henna protein moisturizing pack on it...let it sit under
plastic for about three hours while I screwed around on the computer and
played a rad board game we got for xmas, then rinsed it out. I thought it
was a bit better until it started to dry. It is not.
Before I left the salon, she asked me to make another appointment and she'd
work on the color for FREE..."do some highlighting". Basically my hair is
so weak now that it won't hold color at all, and any coloring will slip
right out. That is the least of my worries. I cant' fucking brush it. It
breaks in the shower and when I touch it. I have to gingerly comb it
straight with a pick and let it dry, and not touch it at all because the
slightest disturbance of the fucking stuff sends it into a big fucking
knot.
Even my mom didn't believe that there were no styling products in it...by
my own doing or the stylist's. I had to repeat over and over "No this
isn't hairspray, mousse, or even gel...this is my HAIR mom, MY HAIR."
I don't know what to fucking DO!
Pretty much the hair that I had finally cut and that was nice and healthy
and damage free (other than the black dye) for the first time in a LONG
time is wrecked, to what I believe, is beyond repair.
A co worker of mine is friends with a hair stylist, who also deals with her
waaaay damaged hair, and she's going to talk to her about fixing it.
All I can think to do is cut it shorter again, do what I can to save what's
left, and start over. I have a few more tricks up my sleeve from years of
doing my own hair, but I feel those will be useless as well. I've never
had my hair this fucked up before.
I bleached out sections of the black a month ago, and they came out to a
blonde/white color, with little to no damage. My salon job turned it
grey/brown. I could have done this myself, and a lot better...but I paid
for a professional so I wouldn't screw it up.
And now my hair is destroyed.
If anyone's had this happen, or knows what to do, PLEASE help me.
I just want to be able to brush it again. I can handle the awful
color.....I just want to be able to brush my fucking hair.
HELP!
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Ironboots
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posted on 29/12/2002 at 02:01 AM
Wow, this -does- require its own forum...
I don't know much about hair. I'm basically a guy when it comes to hair:
If it doesn't look good, cut more off until it does.
I suppose you could have a cool bald androgynous look going...
*shrugs*
I hope your hair gets better soon!
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Domkitten
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posted on 29/12/2002 at 07:31 AM
There is nothing worse than somebody fucking up your hair. I have
absolutely no idea what to reccomend. Only once did I fuck up my hair so
badly I wanted to cry, but fortunately it was easily fixable. You should
really go back to the place that destroyed your hair and demand that they
do something to fix it. However it sounds like your hair my be so brittle
that the only solution is to cut it and start over, which is also
irritating.
I'd send you some cyber cookies to make you feel better, alas they always
clog up the fiber optic wires....
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Mutant_Duckie
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posted on 29/12/2002 at 02:55 PM
buzz your head.. it'd be cute on you anyway
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Schizo
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posted on 29/12/2002 at 06:50 PM
Oh, Bettie!
I heard you had hair problems, but I didn't realize it was THAT bad! You
should fucking SUE that inept hairstylist!
If I were you, if you can't find a way to make your hair at least
BRUSHABLE, I would shave it all off! Hey, bald is beautiful, and you look
like you've got the face that can carry it off.
Poor Bettie! I wish I could make it all better for you!
Domkitten
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posted on 29/12/2002 at 08:33 PM
Bald is not really an option if you love your hair. I would hate to be bald
which is why I don't let anyone near my head but me, and then I can only be
made at myself if I fuck it up.
This won't fix your hair but it may make you feel better. Follow your
hairstylist home, find out where she lives. Take off of work on morning and
replace her regular shampoo with extra strength nair. Again, it won't fix
your hair but you might feel a bit better.
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Arthegarn
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posted on 30/12/2002 at 04:17 AM
I guess you know what I am going to say but
FUCKING SUE THEM!!!
And don't forget to menace with a huge propaganda campaign explaining what
did they do in that so-called stylish hairdresser to your hair. That'll
give you a better pre-iudex indemnitatio, however it's called it English
LAWYER POWER!
Ironboots
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posted on 30/12/2002 at 09:34 AM
Why sue? Is it worth 80 grand or more?
That's half of what's wrong with the world today... Too many damn people
suing and the rest of us too damn scared of a suit to say or do anything.
Going back to the salon to demand correction is one thing. But a bad
hairstyle, no matter how bad, is worth that much money.
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IamSquid
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posted on 30/12/2002 at 10:32 AM
Oh man, Bettie. I can relate. Once upon a time I had natural golden locks
down to my ass. Girls who could have been hair models used to come up to
mee and tell mee they were jealous that a guy could have better hair than
them. Then I dyed it black. It was fine for a few years but I ruined it
to a horrible frizz. Abut a year ago, I decide I wanted my healthy natural
hair back so I cut about a foot and a half off it (it now reaches the
bottom of my shoulderblades) and simply stopped dying it (I could never
live with short hair). My roots are showing terribly so I have to wear
hats to hide my shame and the black part is still a mess of frizz (alot of
morons call mee "Slash" when I wear tophats).
If I were yoo I'd take a full bottle of conditioner to yor hair in one wash
(that's what a friend of mine did to her dreadlocks). If that doesn't
work, I doubt anything will and I hate to be the harbinger of horrible news
but yor gonna have to shave it, or at least cut it.
I'm so sorry.
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DarkMistress
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posted on 30/12/2002 at 01:34 PM
I have three cousins who all went into the hairstyling profession. Two
only still do it for a living. The other one was an "experiment" for the
fucking teacher. My cousin had beautiful RED curly hair and the instructor
dyed it hot pink, then told one of my other cousins to "figure out how to
fix it." Her hair turned out even shittier and she had to go and get it
done somewhere so it would look nice. I think you should sue the hair
salon. And if you are going to shave your head don't shave it bald. Get a
buzz, like Duckie said.
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Man you guys have a bald girl obsession
I'm not gonna sue..I"m not a sue happy person, and besides, I signed a
waver *suptidstupidstupid* I KNEW my hair was going to be damaged a bit,
probably even a bit dry, but JEEBUS.
On the plus side I don't have to "do" my hair anymore...just position
it.
THanks for the advice tho, I really do appreciate it. I used a henna
protein pack (the only protein pack I could find without animal guts in it
*barf*) and it is now at least somewhat combable, but I still can't run my
fingers through it and it's sticky when it's wet I figure I'll do it
again in a day or so, and I"m not washing it, lettin it get all nice and
naturally funky before I try washing it again.
ANd sorry guys, I can't do a buzzcutt. I have an unattractive head.
Seriously. I have this monster flat spot on the back of it. Ask michael,
he messes with it all the time. Besides, the only bar I go to is a gay
bar, and I had a hard enough time there when my hair was LONG *lol*
I'm sure it'll eventually be okay...it was just so terrifying the day I
left the salon that I freaked, and stayed freaked out.
And I'm going to make an appointment with my co workers stylist.....I hear
she works wonders.
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Psychopixi
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posted on 30/12/2002 at 03:46 PM
I'm so sorry about your hair!! I have enough trouble with mine as it is - I
can't begin to imagine how awful you must have felt coming out of that
salon!! Good luck with the new stylist, I hope she can help to save your
hair!!!
On a more positive cheering-you-up note, when I went to a salon to have my
hair cut a while ago I told my mum I was having a trim, but I told the hair
dresser I wanted almost all of it gone. My mum came with me, told the lady
I wanted it cut, she nodded and said I'd spoken to her and picked up my
ponytail and lopped the lot off!! The look on my mum's face was priceless.
I couldn't make it to the chair for laughter.
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Oh your poor mother *lol*
Thanks I've
done that to my mom a couple of times...but mostly it's a delayed reaction
because I've never seen a woman more in denial that her. She can actually
blind herself to the anomaly until she can't subconsciously ignore it
anymore...and by then it's built up and built up and built up until it just
explodes out and she freaks.
She managed to ignore a large tattoo on my arm peeking out of shirt sleeves
for six months...she also managed to not notice 1/2" stretchers in my ears
until I was really close one day and wearing a ponytail (the END all of
"mom spazzing" scenarios, believe me. She wouldn't talk to me for THREE
DAYS)...and the purple hair....poor mom.
It's almost better to have a delayed reaction because then I can prepare to
make the most of it.
I think it's doing better tho, I really do. I didn't shower yesterday or
today, and it seems to be behaving a little better....but I can still
"position" it, which is scary.
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Xaoswolf
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posted on 31/12/2002 at 01:14 AM
If I'd have left the place with hair like you discribed, you can be damn
sure that I'd still have my $160.
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Meranda_Jade
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posted on 31/12/2002 at 11:36 AM
bettie, one thing you could consider is a wig... at least until your hair
grows back. there are lots of good wigs out there that look like real hair,
and nobody would notice the difference. That way, you could cut off as much
as necessary to get the burnt parts off, and then it's just a matter of
letting it grow out a bit. and when it's done, you'll have your natural
color...
Babe, the burt bits start at my roots, and end at my tips
It does seem a bit healthier today tho. I let it funk up with no washing
for almost three days, and did some stuff to it, and I can brush it now.
I am terribly tempted to get my old trademark supershort sassy bitch
hairdo, but I worked SO hard to get my hair long, and cutting it off the
FIRST time was hard enough.
And wigs *sigh* I just can't do it...not all day every day.
I'm sure it'll be okay, but jeebus. jeebus crisco.....*ZAP*
Well it's new year's eve and my hair is jacked to the nines, so I shall be
too in a matter of minutes....the booze in my fridge is callin, I have
vegan pizza on the way, and NOWHERE TO GO! MUAHHAHAHHAHAHHA!
I may just get drunk enough to post a pic of the disaster area known as my
HEAD....and I'll be pretty trashed too
That is, if I can still work the camera *LOL*
Thanks guys...it's only hair, but it's MY HAIR! Yeah, it'll grow back, but
man that's easier to think than live when you HAVE to tell yourself it's
only hair....
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AloneSoul
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posted on 2/1/2003 at 04:58 AM
I’ve been on a leave of absence for a while and now I will respond to this
thread.
I hope I am not repeating suggestions which you have read earlier but I’m
too lazy to read all of them now.
How long would it take for your hair to grow back? You should get it cut
short and let your body work it’s magic. *no pun/sexual under message
intended* Take vitamins in the morning? If not, you should. (If I have not
mistaken) Hair is protein but a constant flow of extra nutrients will
defiantly help to strengthen the regrowth. Vitamins E, C, zinc etc.
Don’t cut your body’s regenerating strength back so quickly, harsh
treatments for your hair at this time may not always be the best solution.
I know not of any herbal treatments for damaged hair but look around, see
what you can fine.
Best of luck to ya. *we all love your hair here, no matter how bad you
think it is*
Thanks man, I'm not doing SHIT to it. I'll live with this cruddy ass color
until my hair is okay again *grumble*
I'm going to buy another protein pack for my hair again tonight, hop in the
tub, read and drink and wash it out and see if it makes it any better than
it did last time.
Vitimins are a good idea, never thought of that.
It'll be good anyway, because I"m soon ending my long suffering love affair
with niccotine, and I"m sure I'll be needing a boost of SOMETHING to keep
me from going on a killing spree or getting sick as my body adjusts
*sigh*
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Starlight
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posted on 3/1/2003 at 05:05 AM
Bettie...I actually had this happen to me about a year and a half
ago...something very similar...only I actually did it to myself...and
here's what happened and what I did (and am still doing on occasion to fix
it)...long repair process *sighs*...my hair is sort of long...about
half-way down my back...and it's naturally on the curly side...and
naturally red...and I decided to put a straightener in it...darken the
shade...and put white blond highlights all along the front for an inch or
two...like bride of frankenstein streaks or something...only I stupidly did
this all in the same day...so my hair was a brittle mass of broken
uncomable frizz...that was pulling out in my hands and breaking as I
touched it...I went to rite-aid almost weeping and the lady behind the
counter said simply...the frizz-ease serum...lots and lots of it and comb
with a wide tooth comb or my fingers...and just put it in daily until
better... I thought oh sure too easy...so I bought handfuls of it and a few
other frizz ease things...(I don't think they have animal products in
them...but they may have some animal testing...I don't like that either as
I'm a vegetarian)...but it's one of those...bald or not things...or in my
case...end up with hair broken to the roots...well after gently applying
those packets to my brittle breaking hair...which was fried out like an
afro in places...I could get the comb through...still lost some hair...but
it got the comb through...didn't even try the brush for about a
week...didn't wash it till then either again...after I washed it...I
started using aussie moist shampoo and aussi moist conditioner (the three
minute miracle actually didn't work as good as the regular aussie
moist...odd but true)...all the aussie line is animal friendly...and then I
followed with the frizz ease serum...(for touch ups they have a cream that
says it reduces puffiness for touchups and it does to a large
degree)...then I dealt with the bleached part of the hair breaking off a
little bit by little bit...and it's now all gone but I have shorter hair in
the front...when my hair was all much longer in the front than that...but
hey I did it to myself...and I haven't applied any bleach or dye again
...or straightener since...just in case...I also now from time to time put
on some olive oil mixed with some vitamin E oil and massage it through my
hair starting at the roots and letting it work it's way through to the
ends...and letting it sit for a few hours before washing it out and putting
in conditioner...if you can't afford the frizz ease items...then at least
give the olive oil itself a chance...it alone will provide a bit of
help....but the frizz ease made my hair not feel quite as weak....well
hopefully maybe some of this will help...or at least prevent a few similar
mistakes to be made by others...*soft smile*
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BlueLinn
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posted on 14/1/2004 at 09:20 AM
You know those super super super things of conditioner that they insert
inside the boxes of cheap hair dyes, try about 3 to 4 of those over the
course of about a week and also some of the vitamin E hot therapy, or just
some vitamin E oil, run it through your hair every once in awhile for about
a week. You should be soft and supple in no time...
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