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Articles: The problem the Y cromosome caused |
Posted by
firefly7 on Sunday, May 19, 2002 - 01:07 AM PST
"I want to go out with you" The seven words that would change everything...
Alex has been my best guy friend for... I don't know, a long time. But anyways we had dated in the past and I had had a crush on him scince pre-school. We could talk about anything- and I mean everything. And we could talk comfortably. Thats just some background info.
Stefano was my boy friend. He was cute, witty, and so crazy smart. He was nice, a gentleman, and nuaghty enough to make things spicy. But we didn't talk talk- the way Alex and I did. Then Alex told me he wanted to go out with me, and for me it was like I really like Stefano but Alex is a great person to talk to and he has so many of the same good traits a Steffy.
This was Tuesday... Alex said on Friday we'll offically be going out. Okay... So I dump Steffy- justifiably he was hurt. He hooked up with a new girl. I was free until Friday.
Thursday I call Alex and get the vibe he doesn't want to go out with me. So I call my close friend Colin and asked him to find out what was going on. Yeah- I was right Alex didn't want to go out with me any more. I don't know why... but it hurt so bad, and I cried for the first time in a year... for two hours.
Today he said "I still like you but I think I'll stay single until next year." Then "How are you feeling?" How do you think I'm feeling you dick?! Now every time I look at Stefano I think "I miss you..." I want him back and I'm so screwed...
To be continued?
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Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused
by Dolorosa on May 19, 2002 - 02:16 AM
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Wait wait...this is the espisode were Brandon and Kelly get into a really nasty fight, and that spelling chick says something stupid!!
But seriously folks...sounds like you've been sucker-punched rather fierce. And like the Almighty said, polyamory...you don't just have to love one. But then again, a lot of people don't go for that.
My advice.
Sleep with the guys dad.
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Re: Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused by Comedian (eccentrically_long@yahoo.com) on May 19, 2002 - 06:01 AM (User info | Send a Message) http://http:// | Man, there was this Episode of talk radio where the two main guy characters were fighting over TAT for the whole episode, when it looked like the puny buck-toothed canadian kid got her, the other guy brought in a t-shirt that said "I kicked Brain martinelli's ass"
"What's this?"
"Just.. take the shirt man.
"I didn't kick your ass."
"Yes, you did, now take it. Only two people in history have been able to wear that shirt, you and my dad."
Yeah, the papa-pappy, he who brought you in to this world and can take you out the same way, screaming and naked. |
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Re: Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused by Devin (devin-at-vibechild-dot-com) on May 20, 2002 - 02:59 PM (User info | Send a Message) http://devin.vibechild.com/ | This post actually reminds me of the south park episode "Do the Handicapped go to Hell?"
If you'll remember the subplot unfolding in hell as Cartman builds his Evangelical Ministry, you'll see the parallels.
Maybe the author needs to go have a conversation with god. It worked for Satan.
God: "Satan, when I kicked you out of here, you were this headstrong rebel - now..." |
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Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused
by Anonymous-Coward on May 19, 2002 - 11:29 AM
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I'm sorry to be an ass...but i feel no sympathy for you. That was a pretty a retarded proposal. No guy in there right mind would ever say to a girl: "on Friday we'll offically be going out", and again would never say that to a girl who is already taken. Give'n the boy probably has balls but still i've never heard of such a thing. Now do you think that sometime in the past that you hurt him in any way that he used this whole situation to hurt you in the end? Now you have to realize something, Im guessing that you are still young...and now what you need to think is "is this 'Steffy' guy all as good as i thought he was',there would be no way in hell that you would have dumped him in a flash like that if he was. Then you state that he hooked up with some other chick right after you dumped him, now either he was hurt or he had already been with this chick before or she is just a slut that he found at some under aged high school party. Now, ask yourself why you are sad, and when you answer, it will come to the fact that you made the mistake and cannot totally blame this Alex fool, you made the choice to dump this "Steffy" guy for Alex that you had a crush on forever...but was pre-school that long ago. So the bottom line here is that the "X" cromosome made the mistake. Men are always blamed for shit like that, but is this guy a man or a boy? You now have learned that "Steffy" wasnt good enough or you wouldnt have dumped him in the first place and this Alex guy is not good enough cause he was just an ass. So you now have to wait, and before you jump into another relationship learn more about the person first so you don't go blamming men for your mistakes.
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Re: Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused by MorteAscendo on May 19, 2002 - 11:31 AM (User info | Send a Message) http:// | that was my comment...i get logged out for no apperant reason.....so insted of "Anonymous-Coward" Put Morte Ascendo.... |
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Re: Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused by firefly7 (-) on May 24, 2002 - 07:43 PM (User info | Send a Message) | I have no sympathy for me either... But you know what- I'm young, I can be a bitchy loser, and I'm over it now. But I still blame the Y chromosome!! |
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Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused
by nocta on May 19, 2002 - 09:53 PM
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I just gotta say that I think polyamory sucks. Sooner or later, one partner will get mad at the other, and the one in the middle will have to make a decision... :(
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Re: Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused by Devin (devin-at-vibechild-dot-com) on May 20, 2002 - 07:15 AM (User info | Send a Message) http://devin.vibechild.com/ | Better not bother having any relationships at all then - sooner or later they always end, so better to just be a hermit and never talk to people at all. |
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Re: Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused by Shade (Shade@Gothcult.com) on May 20, 2002 - 02:03 PM (User info | Send a Message) http://www.hotelshade.com | So haveiong a built in mediator is somehow worse than two people screaming and throwing things at each other? If the wor people are fighting, they'd fight regarless of the audience, at least in a trine, there is someone there to pick up the pieces and help remember what happened.
I hate to say it, but bad argument, no donut. |
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Re: Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused by nocta on May 21, 2002 - 08:40 PM (User info | Send a Message) | The reason I think that is because it happened to me. Maybe I'm a lousy moderator, but when multiple people are fighting and both are asking you to take their side, it's hard to get them both to see reason. Have you tried it?
*rereads what she wrote* Well, that was what originally made me think polyamory sucked. Now that I've been cheated on, I like it even less. |
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Polyamory by Shade (Shade@Gothcult.com) on May 23, 2002 - 01:04 PM (User info | Send a Message) http://www.hotelshade.com | This is humorous coming from the happily and monogamously married one, but honestly, being the one caught between the two fighters could have given you a unique perspective on the situation. you don't have to litereally stand between them in the middle of a no holds barred fight, it's the after time that matters. very rarely would i expect a mediator to hve any effect during the heat of the moment, most of the pro's just say "that's it, this session is over, see you both in half an hour" and does one of two things, s/he sits there watching the fight to learn the true reasons behind the conflict, or s/he leaves to remove the audience factor. it all depends on the feel of the fight.
As far as getting cheated on, again that has nothing to do with polyamory, that's just selfish denial of the rights of a loved one, with the stipulation that monogamy was in fact a stated part of the relationship. I learned early on in my dating days to start anything more serious than a one night stand off with: "Do you want monogamy? Let's talk about it now" tomorrow isn't even good enough, because both myself and the interested parties had been known for having the occasional multiple ride night. Life is not a rollercoaster, it's the entire amusement park. Just make sure you hold enough tickets :) |
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Re: Polyamory by nocta on May 23, 2002 - 06:50 PM (User info | Send a Message) | Unfortunately, the fight we had wasn't particularly mature. It was several days long, and I was only there for part of it. It finally ended with each of the other two people asking me to be with them exclusively and not speak to the other. The stupidest part is how the fight started: one of the other two was (falsely) accused of showing interest in another boy. Looking back, I see that it wouldn't have worked anyway, if an untrue accusation of involvement with another male was enough to cause such an uproar. I assume that not all polyamorous relationships are like this. Still, it was enough to make me want to stay out of that kind of situation in the future.
Getting cheated on is similar to polyamory in that it feels the same to me after my polyamory experience. *rereads what she wrote* Maybe I should just stop dating losers and then I'd have better views of relationship sorts of things. |
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Re: Re: Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused by Comedian (eccentrically_long@yahoo.com) on May 22, 2002 - 06:03 AM (User info | Send a Message) http://http:// | Hey, I thought you just fell in to the gaping maw of the great l-word, Dolorosa. |
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Re: Re: Re: Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused by Dolorosa on May 22, 2002 - 09:10 AM (User info | Send a Message) | Yeah...it still sux though... |
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Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused
by pAris (dparis@columbus.rr.com)
on May 22, 2002 - 09:21 AM
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http://artists.mp3s.com/artists/279/unbalanced_load.html
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First of all cheating ain't polyamory (or however you spell it...), except in the most selfish of ways. True, it sucks to be in the middle of a spat, but we could all learn something from the Bonoboe Monkey (again, spelling?). Those little rascals never fight, they do not know violence, they fuck to solve their arguments as well as for fun. On the other hand, people suck, and I will be the first to admit that bois suck just as much as grrls. All animals get jealous (just ask my cat what he thinks of the dog and bird) for attention, but some of us are not petty about it. Usually...
::gets off soap box::
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Re: The problem the Y cromosome caused
by firefly7 (-)
on Jun 06, 2002 - 01:27 PM
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Well this crisis has changed quite a bit. Stefano has gone through two girl friends, and Alex is now telling everyone that I am a "skanky slut". I don't care what he has to say any more. I think I'm going to go take a bubble bath and eat some chocolate.
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