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If it's charity, call it charity
by Arthegarn on Aug 25, 2004 - 05:34 AM
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Schizo, from a lawyer's point of wiew, there is the law and then there is charity. You understand what I mean by that term. If you wish you can scan the documentation and e-mail it to me so I can have a look at it and give you my opinion, perhaps it's nothing but maybe there is something to be done (I don't want to ruin my soap opera by explaining how am I supposed to give legal advice regarding American law, but I can).
Schizo, you hate to take money from her from a human perspective. This is not human. This is the law, your rights, her rights and Michael's rights. What you can see in those papers is not the money she needs, it is the money she has a RIGHT to demand from Michael. She gets it because she is supposed to be fulfilling a parental role. If she is not and she is tranferring part of that role to Michael or to you, she does no longer have the right to the same ammount. Period.
If you pity her or you think you have the moral obligation to give her more than what she has the legal right to, or simply you don't have a heart to take that money away from your stepchildren, then don't. But there is a difference between paying and giving.
She is a lazy asshole who lives out of Michael's child support. That attitude is NOT to be encouraged. If she doesn't work that is HER decision, and I know because I have been to the US and there anyone who wants a job has a job, quite unlike here.
Right now she feels she has the right to that money. She is wrong, of course, her kids do but she wouldn't understand the difference. Making her feel that is not so, that child support means child support and so keeping the children in your custody counts as it might just make her see things as they really are.
Now, to make you feel like a goddess again, about stability... I don't know if you have realised how much are you the only stable island of reason in that chaotic ocean. God luck, my friend.
Anyway I despise that woman.
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