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Re: Spice in the Vanilla Rack
by Meranda_Jade (Meranda@mymind.com)
on Mar 12, 2004 - 06:17 AM
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What Rogue isn't mentioning, and I think it's because its sometihng he just hasn't thought about, is that in all our years together as a poly couple, he's the only one who has attracted real relationships. I have gotten laid here and there, but I haven't found anyone I'd like to bring home and keep. At least not anyone who's available and/or willing. He goes for quality, and that's going to reduce the number of "hits" he's going to get. I get flirted with, yes, but that's generally about as far as it goes at the club. Or the grocery store. Or the kids' playground. Or anywhere else I go where there are other people. That's just because I talk to everybody and I'm really friendly. When he does talk to someone, they're usually very impressed with him, and want more than a one night stand. And he doesn't even need an eye-catching costume to get that kind of attention...
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Re: Spice in the Vanilla Rack
by Gryphon (Gryphon_M@hotmail.com)
on Mar 12, 2004 - 08:13 PM
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I suffer a bit from the shyness myself, I flip flop from "who gives a fuck" and "who would want to talk to me?". I think that one of my greatest weeknesses is that I have no idea how to flirt.
Sometimes I can muster the courage to approach and try to start conversation, but, to date, it has not produced any results. I to much prefer being introduced among friends... unfortunately, Ianthe is not like MJ in the aspect of introductions... she is just not comfortable with that. None of my other friends seem to keen on introductions iether... in this aspect I am just fucking screwed. (or not as the case may be)
Every other year or so is still a step up from my situation. I have never connected in this way... not during the time Ianthe and I have been together (5 years) nor before.
I have actively tried to find out if there is interest... there never is any and after so much of that one gets a little gun shy. FACT: the human psyche can only take so much rejection.
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Re: Spice in the Vanilla Rack
by dydxe^6 (elegy6@hotmail.com)
on May 02, 2004 - 08:06 AM
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I agree, it's difficult to start conversations with strangers without resotrting to cliches and banal small talk. The worst part is that I see it work for other guys every wednesday night, and it makes me wonder whats wrong with me. Then again I wonder if most people are just incredibly shallow, the egotistical part agrees with the latter statement,but that part rarely manifests itself publicly. I see the insecurity you speak of; the overt concern with having the right clothes, listeneing to the right bands, and dancing the same as every one else is blatantly obvious, and as a result the scene around here has stagnated. I don't even go to the club most nights, after all, its going to be the same people, the D.J is going to play the same songs, and I will more than likely sleep alone that night. Is this a common experience, Or am I alone in this?
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