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Re: Spice in the Vanilla Rack
by Shade (Shade@Gothcult.com)
on Mar 11, 2004 - 11:12 AM
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I think one of the points being made here was that if someone, for the ease of conversation lets make it female and give her a name. Juliette works. If Julliette, the endlessly romantic type, is the type to get hurt by her lover having intercourse, having sex, sharing love, conversation, or just a movie with someone else, then Julliette isn't going to get into Devin's pants, metaphoric or otherwise.
So, in one way, you could say that no, he wouldn't have sex with someone if it would hurt someone he loved, but to be really clear, that's because he is consciously being aware of his own drives and interests; and as such he isn't going to hook up with, or really, even hang out with someone who is going to be hurt by sharing.
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Re: Spice in the Vanilla Rack
by callei on Mar 11, 2004 - 11:16 AM
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it is hard for me to answer if he would have sex with person A knowing that it would hurt person B. I know the answer but its not really my place to say it for him. Let me use me as an example.
In my case the answer is yes, I would have sex with one person even if i knew it would hurt someone else i cared about. but it depends on why they would get hurt.
I have had sex with a new lover even tho I knew my ex-lover still wanted me and would be upset that i had moved on to someone else. We had been over for months but he was feeling sentimental and wanted someone to play romantic games with. I wasnt interested in playing those games with him and i was clear about it with him. he still got his feeling hurt that i was seeing someone else.
I have had sex even tho a parent of mine was hurt to realize that thier child had grown up and was now an adult. And be warned kids out there, you having sex will remind your parents that they are getting old and this will upset them.
I have had sex with person B while dating person A. we hadnt said that it was a monogamous relationship, we were just dating. She got her feelings hurt because she had made assumptions about our relationship and i sorta guessed that she had made them, but there was no reason really for me to behave the way she wanted me to and not have sex with someone else that i really liked and was also dating. She had this idea in her head that we would be the cute, lovely lesbian couple and would move in together. She didnt tell me that, of course, til she was handing me the break up speach.
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