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Re: How to get real love
by callei on Feb 15, 2004 - 07:17 AM
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That is the thing, we are ready for sex long before we are ready for love. And to some extent, waiting to have sex until we are ready to have love makes the two things get all mized up with each other.
As the articles progress, they move from "I" to "The Other" and then to "Us". and that is (generally) the progression for most people. we start out only filling our own need (even if we dont understand that need) and then try to fill someone elses need. that is that learning empathy part of growing up. and only after we learn to understand our need and thier need, can we really have love.
While i do hold love to be more important in my life than sex with a stranger, I am also a bit older. When you are telling kids about career choices, you dont tell them about upper-middle-management jobs, you tell them about into level job. Then you tell them about the promotions that might come.
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