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Re: The Psycho-Slut Strikes Again
by bettie_x (strangersangel@hotmail.com)
on Jan 22, 2003 - 11:46 AM
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I don't understand where the legal helplessness comes from.
Your boyfriend is legally allowed to drink in his own home, period. If she is in YOUR house, on YOUR property, for ANY reason SHE is the trespasser, and can't do shit to you in your own home. I know it doesn't seem that way, but it's true. A MINOR in ANY state can drink alcohol in THEIR OWN HOME behind closed doors with their legal guardian present. Alcohol is a legal substance for adults to posess and drink in their homes. It's not illegal for alcoholics to drink, it's not illegal for abusers to drink, it's not illegal for ANYONE who is an adult to drink...past criminal record or NOT.
She THINKS she has the upper hand....so don't let her have it. She doesn't. She's got squat.
Remember, she's got about as much evidence on him as you guys do on her, and well YOU guys can't do shit, so why can she?
So what you do is you GET evidence on her, set up a recorder (very cheap and easy to use, I have one myself! Well it's for recording bat sounds..but...eh...) or a cam and give her the rope to hang herself.
Just make sure that you protect yourselves at all cost. Don't call her or contact her unless you have to (like picking up the kids or something), and don't let your anger or emotions show or get the better of you. If possible, as silly as it sounds, whenever she comes over for whatever reason, tell your boyfriend the best place for him to be the entire time is ON HIS BUTT on the couch. It's less threatening, and hell if he's not even STANDING UP near her, how could he "do" anything to her? (as I'm sure she's said he's "done" stuff before). Plus if you can get it on tape that he sat on the couch the whole time, then you can prove in court that he is "non threatening" and did nothing to her, even if she lies (like from what you've said she commonly does).
You guys need to sit down and make a plan of action that you follow through with EVERY time she shows up. EVERY TIME. Because then it's less like a confrontation, and more like a routine, and routines are harder to break and easier to handle than a fresh situation that catches you off guard. It's like psyching up for an event...you change your mind set, your reactions, everything as soon as she steps through the door. It'll keep your asses out of the frying pan.
It's your home, your lives, so you guys NEED to take it back. You can, believe me, you can....it won't be pretty, but nothing worth fighting for is, and I imagine your peace of mind and happiness is more than worth it.
Email me about the other..stuff.
strangersangel@hotmail.com
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