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Polyamory
by Shade (Shade@Gothcult.com)
on May 23, 2002 - 01:04 PM
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This is humorous coming from the happily and monogamously married one, but honestly, being the one caught between the two fighters could have given you a unique perspective on the situation. you don't have to litereally stand between them in the middle of a no holds barred fight, it's the after time that matters. very rarely would i expect a mediator to hve any effect during the heat of the moment, most of the pro's just say "that's it, this session is over, see you both in half an hour" and does one of two things, s/he sits there watching the fight to learn the true reasons behind the conflict, or s/he leaves to remove the audience factor. it all depends on the feel of the fight.
As far as getting cheated on, again that has nothing to do with polyamory, that's just selfish denial of the rights of a loved one, with the stipulation that monogamy was in fact a stated part of the relationship. I learned early on in my dating days to start anything more serious than a one night stand off with: "Do you want monogamy? Let's talk about it now" tomorrow isn't even good enough, because both myself and the interested parties had been known for having the occasional multiple ride night. Life is not a rollercoaster, it's the entire amusement park. Just make sure you hold enough tickets :)
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