jadedraven
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posted on 10/3/2002 at 05:11 PM |
ok, so tell me, no bluffing or boasting, do you get laid whenever you want
it? If you donīt, have you ever thought of cheating (if you are in a
relationship) to fix that problem? <BR> <BR>Iīll go
first, since I am a very sexual person(hey, I AM a Scorp) I like it a lot,
so I have to be with a guy who feels the same (like that is sooo hard to
find...) if I am in a relationship with that person. and yes, there is a
chance I might cheat if I wasnīt getting my fair share, but that problem
has never come up, but I would probably bring it up with my signifigant
other first. ____________________ this is your world in which we grow and we will grow to hate you |
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ickgirl
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posted on 10/3/2002 at 05:17 PM |
cheating is sex with another person when you are in a commited relationship
and not telling your partner - and thatīs a no no. if you want sex
elsewhere, best to get an OK from the sig. other. <BR> <BR>if you cant find someone to give you enough - well then find
someone who isnīt hung up on monogamy. <BR> <BR>and
yes, i get enough <IMG SRC="images/smilies/icon_wink.gif"> ____________________
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Meranda_Jade
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posted on 10/3/2002 at 07:42 PM |
I get enough, am very satisfied... and yet, I like to cuddle my friends...
I donīt see it as cheating, neither does Rogue... he cuddles his friends
too... whatever makes the other happy is our basic rule for a happy
relationship... when I was in other relationships, where we hadnīt talked
this out, I was very monogamous, wouldnīt cheat for any reason... ____________________
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pAris
Member Posts: 115 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 11/3/2002 at 01:05 PM |
Yeah, my grrl and I do not cheat. Thatīs not to say weīve never slept w/
anyone else, but itīs ALWAYS in the open and with approval and w/ some
pre-discussed ground rules. It sounds like a bit of a pin in the ass, bt
in the long run saves a lot of headache. <BR> <BR>Do I get enough? HA! I could probably have sex 4 times a day
and not get enough, so I do not expect anyone to have to satisfy me
completely. We do have wonderful sex, and encourage looking, cuddling, and
some playing (as long as things are kept respectful). <BR> <BR>Am I happy in my relationship? Of course. Communication and
fun and sex and beauty cannot be beat and we both try to not get
unappreciative of each other. ____________________
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Element-Masiya
Member Posts: 56 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 11/3/2002 at 05:54 PM |
I havenīt been died sex before if thatīs what you mean. My and my former
g/f are treating each other like g/f and b/f but we donīt go out(In other
words, if we did go out, we wouldnīt treat each other any differently). We
do this because we donīt want to have sex with just one person. Weīre only
17! we shouldnīt be with just one girl just yet. Anyway, weīre together
for the sex and the extremely close relationship and weīre allowed to have
sex with other peeps as well just for sex, thatīs it. I donīt remember
ever being denied but there were a few times where I was drugged up and
lost some memory of things here and there. ____________________ Why build if destruction is only to come? |
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Ianthe99
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posted on 11/3/2002 at 06:28 PM |
I * could* if I wanted to I suppose. As it is.. I do pretty good. Iīve got
a great husband whom I love a lot.. and a.. well..lover/second/ FWB that I
love as well. I donīt get to see him nearly as much as I would like tho. I
donīt have to cheat. Iīm allowed to see others. ____________________ She who dies with the most toys wins! |
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Devin
Administrator Posts: 317 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Online
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posted on 11/3/2002 at 08:33 PM |
Funny how weīre told that the only thing thatīs supposed to work and make
us happy and satisfied is total monogamy, but the people I know who are the
happiest and most satisfied all have "Arrangements" ____________________ So Sayeth Me |
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pAris
Member Posts: 115 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 12/3/2002 at 08:52 AM |
Youīre so right, Devin. It still (as stated in your
commandments/suggestions area) has to rely on respect for yourself and for
your partner(s). <BR>I hate when people sleep around just to
create drama or to make someone else feel crappy. And in our little cult,
we always give each other the power of veto (although we also leave open
the ability to try to talk the other into it). <BR>I also go
out of my way to make sure my partner has no reason to feel jealous or to
not trust me. And my partner does the same for me (although being human,
sometimes we do get jealous a little, then we talk about it. Then we have
sex and laugh about it). ____________________
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posted on 12/3/2002 at 10:59 AM |
I donīt NEARLY get as much as any of you. hehehe. I guess itīs part of
being goth in South Africa. Trust me. Yall have it good. Iīm kindof an
outcast because we really donīt have much here. I sent my pic through for
all yall to see. Just waiting feedback from Devin (or whomever gets those
submissions) . Itīs raining here. Modem is gonna die. Will check in later
guys and gurls. <BR> <BR>CIAO ____________________
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jadedraven
Member Posts: 114 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 12/3/2002 at 03:49 PM |
There are two things that keep me from having a relationship with more than
one person. First off, the guys I tend to fall in love with are not up for
that sort of thing, and I am not likely to find any who are in this area,
and second, I would probably get possesive, i like to be the center of
attention ____________________ this is your world in which we grow and we will grow to hate you |
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Schizo
Extreme Fanatic Posts: 897 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 12/3/2002 at 09:44 PM |
Iīm afraid Iīm a hardened monogamist, but Iīm perfectly all right with
anyone designing their relationship however they want. Although I must
agree with those that say it MUST be in the open and agreed on by everyone
involved. Having fun is one thing, but risking someone elseīs trust and
happiness is quite something else. <BR> <BR>As for
me, I donīt think itīs as much virtue as laziness behind my monogamy. The
relationship I got myself into was way too confusing, and now that Iīm
pregnant with his baby, Iīm not going to be able to get completely out of
it. Adding someone else, although I donīt feel it would be wrong in any
way at all, just seems like adding to the complication. And this is just
MOVING ON to another relationship, not just the question of doing one or
two guys in a given time period. <BR> <BR>And
having to share my boyfriend against my will for so long kind of left me
with a sour taste in my mouth for sharing of any kind. <BR> <BR>But all of you in creative relationships - go for it, if itīs
really your thing! I love hearing about it, even if I may never do it! <BR> <BR>But I must admit - my sex life sucks! <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_razz.gif"> Oh well, being pregnant kind of
drains the sex drive out, anyway... <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_frown.gif"> ____________________ "You can tell by the scars on my arms and the cracks in my hips and the
dents in my car and the blisters on my lips that I'm not the carefullest of
girls." - Dresden Dolls, "Girl Anachronism" |
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Ianthe99
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posted on 12/3/2002 at 09:53 PM |
Paris.. your arrangement sounds kinda like ours.. If the hubby dosnīt like
one of my "prospects" (not that there are a ton.. but, you know) he can say
no. To which I reply with "but.. well.. heīs really nice.. and etc.etc."
lol. But it all comes down to respect. ____________________ She who dies with the most toys wins! |
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Dolorosa
Extreme Fanatic Posts: 856 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 12/3/2002 at 10:10 PM |
I have always kept extremely open relationships with my signifigant
others. Go out, and do whom we wish to do...as long as we come back to
eachother. With my enlistment into the military, that kind of
dissolved...basically, the way it is with me now, and with a lot of
military types...screw when you can, to hell with the consequences, and if
you can do it again...do it again. We donīt have time for commitment, or
cheating for that matter. <BR> It sucks in a way...but at the
same time, it cuts a lot of trouble and thinkering. <BR> If I
could find THE one though...as much of a free-spirit that I am, if theyīre
uncomfortable with multiple partners...I wouldnīt have a problem giving
that up. Weird huh? ____________________ In the valley of the Goats, the Goat Fucker is King |
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pAris
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posted on 13/3/2002 at 09:43 AM |
Not so weird. I am a hopeless romantic and can be selfish, and my love is
all I really want and could be happy with just her the rest of my life.
But I like her to be happy and free, and she feels the same way about me.
We do not play that often, but we both figure itīs better to be in the open
than in the dark. Well, sometimes, itīs fun to be in the dark in the open,
but you know what I mean. <BR>Plus, if there is anything more
beautiful than the naked body of the one you love, itīs 2 (or more) naked
bodies..... ____________________
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Element-Masiya
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posted on 13/3/2002 at 02:42 PM |
i really dislike it when people say that "do you get any whenever you
want". It sounds as if your partner is just an object. <br> <BR>On another note, me an my HS friend make out at the lockers
after lunch in front of everyone and Itīs a great thrill to see the other
inexperience people see us <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif"> . If thatīs not being open, I
donīt know what is. Is that what your talking about being open? If itīs
not, then well I do talk openly with my partner if thatīs what everyone
means by "open". <IMG SRC="images/smilies/icon_cool.gif"> ____________________ Why build if destruction is only to come? |
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Ianthe99
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posted on 13/3/2002 at 03:18 PM |
No.. "open" means being in a committed relationship where both people are
allowed to see/date/sleep with/flirt with etc. other people. ____________________ She who dies with the most toys wins! |
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Element-Masiya
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posted on 13/3/2002 at 05:51 PM |
oh well I do that already with my freethinking girl <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif"> . ____________________ Why build if destruction is only to come? |
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Ironboots
Extreme Fanatic Posts: 893 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 13/3/2002 at 07:19 PM |
<BR>Oh well, the shy guy gets none... (meaning me) But I
suppose Iīd be open to multiple partners, if sheīs there... you know, a
party... <IMG SRC="images/smilies/icon_wink.gif"> Iīm kinda
possessive... <BR> <BR>But my īMedia and the
Messageī class (very catholic-values-weighted) has been discussing this
very topic these past few days, most of us in class trying to argue against
our teacher, who says that sex, outside of marriage, and without the
possibility of conception is wrong. One of the large reasons why I donīt
like the Catholic Church... ____________________ Piggy's got the Conch! |
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Shade
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posted on 13/3/2002 at 11:38 PM |
I think my biggest beef with any reliogion saying sex before or outside of
the marital union is wrong is bacause they generally respond to "why?ī
questions with "because God said so" I never took that from my parents, Iīm
not about to take it from some hoity toity figmant of the local clergyīs
imagination. (no offense) ____________________ It is only through the lack of sex that humanity derives the need for an
all encompassing blind love. And in that moment of extreme horniness with
no relief in sight, in that moment can be found the birth of religion.
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Dolorosa
Extreme Fanatic Posts: 856 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 13/3/2002 at 11:41 PM |
I remember making out in HS...and how much fun it was, then I joined the
Navy and went to see Bangkok... <BR> two words...Live Cobra. <BR> HS Makeouts suddenly seemed tamer than a nunīs fart. <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif"> ____________________ In the valley of the Goats, the Goat Fucker is King |
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