jadedraven
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posted on 28/2/2002 at 08:53 PM |
Some people have sex on the first date, some people donīt, its that simple.
For me, it depends on the vibe I get, and I have never been wrong. I
slept with some guy the first night I met him cause I got a vibe, and we
moved in together, and had a looong relationship and have a lifelong
friendship, but on the other hand, there was this perfectly nice guy who I
couldnīt stand to touch because I didnīt like his vibe. After a month of
dating him, and not even being able to hold his hand without cringing, I
finally figured out what a complete psycho he was. The police wound up
arresting him due to his scary behavior afterwords.
<BR>My
question is, what makes you say OK? Is it a certian time length, a
certian vibe, is it just pure physical attraction. I am not making any
judgements, whether you have slept with zero people or a hundred, we all
have to do something with our time, I am just wondering under what
circumstances do you say ok?
<BR>Does it have to be love, or
are there other things? ____________________
this is your world in which we grow and we will grow to hate you
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Ironboots
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posted on 28/2/2002 at 09:43 PM |
I dunno... #1 is if theyīre heading for it...
<BR>
<BR>Iīd go for it if I felt in the mood, and it seemed right...
You know, not if sheīs (or he, maybe <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_wink.gif"> drunk and picked me at random...
Nothing Iīd feel guilty for, you know? ____________________
Piggy's got the Conch!
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Dolorosa
Extreme Fanatic  Posts: 856 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 1/3/2002 at 06:32 AM |
You know because the little jamaican crab thingie starts singinī...
<BR> However...from personal experiance, it is ill advised to
start shooting at above mentioned little singing jamaican crab while your
trying to be romantic. He apparently has the poor to turn invisible to
everyone else but you.
<BR> <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif"> ____________________
In the valley of the Goats, the Goat Fucker is King
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Sardonic-Pain
Fanatic   Posts: 248 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 1/3/2002 at 07:25 AM |
| i dunno.....I havenīt had sex with a guy for a year and a half.....I will
have sex with a girl after the first date if and only if it feels
right....But usually I am not the type of person to jump at it not unless i
am really in the mood (Which is a lot of the time) or drunk off my ass
cause most of my inhibitions fall to the floor when I am drunk....... But
if I think its right the Iīll for it ____________________
My Life is like a porno-Without the sex-Just the weird music
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Schizo
Extreme Fanatic  Posts: 897 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 10/3/2002 at 01:43 PM |
I donīt know if Iīm really qualified to talk on this subject, but all I can
contribute is my experience.
<BR>
<BR>The first
time I ever had sex (with the only man Iīve ever slept with) I didnīt even
wait for the first date! We were close friends, and he had just got out of
an extremely bad relationship, or so we thought, and I was head over heels
in love with him, not to mention a 24 year old virgin desperately curious
about sex. So I went for it. And even though it was definitely
ill-advised, and got me into a shit-load of trouble, I canīt exactly say I
regret it.
<BR>
<BR>If I were to get another
opportunity with another guy to get it on, I really donīt know what Iīd end
up doing. I rather think Iīd be more than a bit more cautious. ____________________
"You can tell by the scars on my arms and the cracks in my hips and the
dents in my car and the blisters on my lips that I'm not the carefullest of
girls." - Dresden Dolls, "Girl Anachronism"
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Meranda_Jade
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posted on 25/3/2002 at 12:25 PM |
| Usually I have sex with my friends. Usually not the first time weīve met,
and not all the time, but once in a while whenever it feels right... Once
in a great while I will get all horny over a strangerīs vibe, but chances
of anything ever happening with that are slim, unless said stranger becomes
my friend... ____________________
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Ianthe99
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posted on 25/3/2002 at 01:09 PM |
| I generally have to get to know someone a bit before I get have sex with
them. Thereīs gotta be a bit of comfort level there, and I have to feel
that I can trust them. Really tho.. I think most of that comes back to my
STDs and serial killers fears. ____________________
She who dies with the most toys wins!
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Shade
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posted on 25/3/2002 at 01:38 PM |
| Back in my dating days I generally depended on a sense of right moment,
usually it was first date sometimes later. I wonīt say I wasnīt in it for
the sex, but sometimes I was in it (The date in general) for a good time
all around as well so i didnīt stress it. I can also be a bit obtuse in
terms of he/she just said letīs go to bed now, but once I got the message
it was time to get a room. I guess What I mean is I carried a dozen condoms
and if they said yes the vibe was right... ____________________
It is only through the lack of sex that humanity derives the need for an
all encompassing blind love. And in that moment of extreme horniness with
no relief in sight, in that moment can be found the birth of religion.
-Me
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DarkTigress
Member  Posts: 104 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 25/3/2002 at 03:42 PM |
I wouldnīt know for sure since Iīm... a... hrm, virgin... but I would say
you should go after vibeīs as you said. You should go by vibeīs every day I
think. I go by that when I meet new people, not meaning in a sexual way
only. Itīs often proven to be right later on.
<BR>Besides, I
heard somewhere that we all have a certain smell that is caused by our
hormones, and although we can not actually feel it, we sence it... therefor
feeling a certain vibe... so thereīs more into the "just a feeling". Okay,
Iīll shut up now... itīs late and I shouldnīt be talking right now <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_smile.gif"> ____________________
~The World Can Continue It's Excistence Without Mankind... But What Happens
To The Mankind When The Earth Is Gone?~
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Ianthe99
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posted on 25/3/2002 at 10:44 PM |
| Umm, yes.. pheremones..yummy! Iīm not particularly sure that about the fact
that you canīt smell it.. I mean.. have you ever come across someone that
just smells... soo..good. I mean, you could just bury your nose in their
neck and stay that way. ____________________
She who dies with the most toys wins!
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jadedraven
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posted on 26/3/2002 at 03:08 AM |
| why do you think that so many people who seem like complete opposites get
together? I read that you are instictively attracted to someone who can
correct the genetic weaknesses you have, so that you kids will be all good
physically and mantally. We had a big conversation about it in a psych
class ____________________
this is your world in which we grow and we will grow to hate you
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Arthegarn
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posted on 26/3/2002 at 12:45 PM |
I guess I bet you, Schizo. This time last year I was still a virgin, or at
least I considered myself a virgin (we should have a discussion about the
definition of virginity... Oral sex makes you lose virginity? What of
dildos?).
<BR>But going on with the question, though we were
madly in love with each other and had been for months (Yolanda and me, as
youīll guess), we waited a week because she had this obsession with me
being a 27-year-old virgin and wanting it all to be perfect and so on (It
was perfect, I would tell but youīd say Iīm bluffing...). Otherwise, if it
had depended on me, we would have "copulated like cani lupi". What makes me
say yes is I am in love. Peroid.
<BR>If we include other types
of sex into the subject (remember my book "1001 things you can do without
doing IT"), then, in my case, what makes me say yes the first night is
usually the previous selection process. I donīt kiss just the first
gothbabe who comes up (if you do that you lose status, heh heh), so if I
have kissed her that means I consider her intelligent, nice, witty (and
available) so I much likely want to go to the end.
<BR>
<BR>Beware if you ever met me and I kiss you, girls... <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif"> ____________________
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Dolorosa
Extreme Fanatic Posts: 856 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 26/3/2002 at 02:32 PM |
| Cani Lupi? Does that mean wild wolves or is my languages off? Me...Iīm
probably the biggest attention-whore I know, and in that light...I
generally sleep with anything pretty, and intelligent...when Iīm drunk, I
get a little less picky, but still... In the end, itīs all about fun
really...if itīs fun, bitchinī....if not, screw it (anyway). Vibes are a
big part...luck and timing are the other ones. Maybe itīs just the sailor
speaking...but sex, and all things associated with it are the focal points
of much of my life. Wheee! <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif"> ____________________
In the valley of the Goats, the Goat Fucker is King
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Cashmere
Member Posts: 58 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 26/3/2002 at 05:44 PM |
<BR> At least for me, it takes a lot because I am not by
nature a close or intimate person. There are very few people who I trust
enough to show them naked emotion, and it takes a LONG time to get to that
point. Itīs an issue of trust, and caring enough about the person enough to
show them all aspects of your personality: including that one during and
right after a mindblowing orgasm. It takes a lot of trust on my part to
show my emotions to people before I thoroughly analyze them, and sex falls
under experiencing emotion to me. <BR><BR><font size=1>[
This message was edited by: Cashmere on 2002-03-28 18:13 ]</font> ____________________
"Truth is always on the move. It is always somewhere, but never in the
foreground, never on the surface."
-Franz Marc
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Arthegarn
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posted on 27/3/2002 at 03:23 AM |
| Yep, it’s latin for wolves. Canis Lupus is the scientifical term.
Can=dog, lupus=wolf. I would have said just lupi put that’s how
we say it in Spanish (it has a rythm) ____________________
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jadedraven
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posted on 27/3/2002 at 04:19 AM |
I agree, being a scorp, for me sex is a huge thing in my life, I donīt know
if I would go as far as ot say the driving force but in the end, its pretty
much all about life, sex, and death. And Iīm not dead yet, soooo....
<BR>I am an attention whore as well, and an incorrigable flirt ____________________
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DarkTigress
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posted on 27/3/2002 at 02:13 PM |
Ianthe99... you sure that isnīt just parfume? I mean, they use them
hormones/phermones/whatever they are called in some parfumes if I know
right... now because you smell it, just sence it... and then you think the
rest of the parfume smells good too.
<BR>Jadedraven, ohh... is
THAT why opposite attracts? That makes very much of a sence to me...
<IMG SRC="images/smilies/icon_smile.gif"> ____________________
~The World Can Continue It's Excistence Without Mankind... But What
Happens
To The Mankind When The Earth Is Gone?~
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Ianthe99
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posted on 27/3/2002 at 02:56 PM |
| Nope.. trust me.. itīs not just perfume. If you find someone with that
smell.. youīll know it! ____________________
She who dies with the most toys wins!
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callei
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posted on 27/3/2002 at 03:24 PM |
does it count as the first date if you dont know thier name and they dont
know yours? like your eyes meet on the dance floor and your brain shuts
down. all you can see is thier skin, all you can think about is the feel of
thier breath, all you can do is touch them. It doesnt matter who they think
they are or what thier future plans are, you just want them now.
<BR>Has this ever happened to anyone else? ____________________
Real goths wear silver and crosses to keep the werewolves and vampires
away.
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Dolorosa
Extreme Fanatic Posts: 856 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 27/3/2002 at 07:46 PM |
Aaaaah hell yeah!!
<BR> Seriously...Iīd have to take off my
shoes to start counting how many times thats happened to me...and I hope it
just keeps on happening, until I die fromsomething really nasty.
<BR> As for pheromones...there wasa gil on my base that exuded
them rather powerfully, she didnīt smell funny or anyhing...itīs just that
every time she walked into the room, I startd getting really really
twitchy.
<BR> We finally got into the elevator together
once...itīs surprising what you can do in the time it takes to get from the
first floor to the fifth... <IMG
SRC="images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif"> ____________________
In the valley of the Goats, the Goat Fucker is King
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