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Domkitten
Fanatic Posts: 470 Registered: 23/9/2002 Status: Offline
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posted on 19/2/2004 at 07:28 AM |
Some of the kids here are growing up. Kids do that it happens. I’ve been
having a regular nervous breakdown lately over the growing up and leaving
of one of my classes. It’s fun to watch kids grow, and at the same time it
can hurt on a much deeper and more primal level. There is always a part of
you that wants them to be very much like you are, and another part of you
that realizes that they never will be exactly who you are.
The biggest problem, however, is while watching these teens become adults
you can watch while some do so with more grace, delicacy and beauty than
you think you could have managed at the same age; while others seem to go
the road of pretentious and hurtful snobbery, becoming nasty, brutish,
short, and full of shmeng.
Of course, that is how it is with kids, as they enter adulthood, as we all
did at some point, they tend to feel they need to remake the world in their
image be it good or bad. What is most bothering to those of us who are
adults, however, is that we can see the good, and the bad, and either way
we push will send them careening in either one direction or the other, but
it may not bring them back. Often times suggestions upon behavior result
more frequently in completely and unexpectedly aggressive behavior from the
youngsters we are trying to nurture
The question here is as simply to ask, as it is complex to answer. How is
it that we can help our little fledgling shmenglings enter adulthood while
maintaining a sense of self, but at the same time appreciating what others
have to offer? As a teacher it is something I constantly struggle with. How
do you nurture autonomy without shaping it into dependency?
____________________ It's like kegel exercises for your throat.~Monolycus |
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Meranda_Jade
Fanatic Posts: 511 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 19/2/2004 at 08:44 AM |
Remember how you were as a kid. Remember that you can't force someone to be
anything other than what they want to be. let the kids know they can come
to you for advice or encouragement, but don't suffocate them. Don't treat
them like kids unless they're determined to act like two year olds. most of
the 'kids" here behave very maturely, so that's not a huge problem.
Personally, i feel more comfortable talking to the kids here than to my
own... and its harder seeing my own grow up a little more whenever I blink
my eyes. The fledglings will fly, whether they're ready for it or not. The
ones here are lucky in that there are a lot of intelligent, helpful,
non-condescending adults who can make it a little easier on them.
Besides, nobody, parent, friend, relative or otherwise, has ever figured
out how to make a kid grow up to be exactly who you want them to be. All
you really can do is be nurturing and supportive and watch as they become
the people they want to become. ____________________
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callei
Extreme Fanatic Posts: 759 Registered: 31/12/1969 Status: Offline
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posted on 20/2/2004 at 08:38 AM |
seperation anxiety sucks, and having a group of people to whom you talk and
relate everyday for years suddenly go away is really hard, no matter what
it is they are going off to do.
watching the kids grow and go on to something else, sorta leaves us
"behind" and that isnt a great feeling (mortality, end-of-adventure, and
loss of known contact); its lonely.
what can we do for the kids? let them go with all the grace we can muster.
What can we do for ourselves? get gloriously drunk. ____________________ Real goths wear silver and crosses to keep the werewolves and vampires
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