Yeah, once upon a time, showing your ankles was considered incredibly
provocative.
I figure it's what you're dressing for. If you're wearing sexy clothes
because it's what you think is pretty, and it makes you feel pretty, go
ahead. But if you're wearing sexy clothes to get attention, and make
people want to sleep with you, then you've got a problem.
And if someone is going to diss you for wearing what you like because they
think it's slutty, then I would say that they could very well be the sort
of person that you really don't need to have as a friend. If your
intentions are in the right place, it will show, and those with sensitivity
and discernment (who are, after all, the people I would rather surround
myself with) will figure out what you're about, and won't ostracize you
because you like a certain cut of clothing.
But then again, if you really are dressing for sexual attention, then those
same people of sensitivity and discernment will figure THAT out too, and
you will be likely to attract only mindless drones and guys who want to get
in your pants but not get to know you because all they care about is your
body. Which people would be those I would very much rather NOT surround
myself with.
Oh, by the way diabolus, beauty is not a size. One of the most beautiful
girls I know is most definitely plus size (though not morbidly obese or
anything - that's a different category), and the sad thing is, I don't
think she realizes how lovely she is. And I know alot of ugly girls with
so-called "perfect" bodies. Beauty is not a size, or an age, or a fashion
statement. We need to train our eyes to find beauty in all the variations
of humanity. It's out there, although Hollywood would like us to think
otherwise. More people need to learn to show off their alternate forms of
beauty, and teach us all to not despise unapproved types, just because
we've been told to.
The only thing ugly about obesity is the fact that it is unhealthy, and
often denotes parallel unhealthiness in the mind and emotions. But then
again, it is just as unhealthy to be severly underweight. It's just a more
fashionable unhealthy. How shallow is that?
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VampCourt
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posted on 16/9/2003 at 05:00 PM
It also depends on what some people think are sexy too. Most things
considered "sexy" are way way WAY mainstream and most people arent even
phased by it anymore. everything is sex in your face these days anyhow.
which i got really bored with.
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chameleon
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posted on 16/9/2003 at 04:56 PM
Why can't everyone just wear what is comfortable to them and not bitch
about it? I swear, that would solve so many problems...
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Sardonic-Pain
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posted on 16/9/2003 at 02:44 PM
For one I agree that you should be able to dress how ever you want and even
if you are bigger than the average anarexic you can still be sexy....Us
bigger girls can be just a sexy as anyone else even if we are bulky and fat
is a harsh word...But hey Dress how you want However Tasteful or Tasteless
it is
HOWEVER....a shmeng forum isn't a dating service
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Ummm... you are in the wrong place if they feel that you should not dress
revealingly... anyone who feels that they have the right to tell you off
for that is a twonk...
BUT... contrradicting yourself in that manner... I agrgee with Dolorosa...
definitely ronic...
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AloneSoul
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posted on 16/9/2003 at 01:16 AM
I’ll put it this way, there’s no problem with being “sexy” publicly. You
aren’t dressing tastelessly so in most cases it’ll probably be jealousy
that they’re feeling. That’s a good output too, not to care as how others
view you so long as you know you who are. Under constant criticism the
ignorant suggestions can get aggravating but that’s understandable.
Is being “sexy” a trend? If you mean dressing tastelessly then yeah, I’d
say so. Back in my old high school I knew girls who followed the fashion
trends and one was tacky dress for the purposes for looking attractive.
Instead they rather demeaned themselves and were treated like objects last
I knew. *sighs*