Dense
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posted on 11/11/2003 at 10:34 PM |
I have just heard some good news. I am a soon to be father. I am bursting
with joy. Of course there is concern but it is minuscule to my happiness. I
was wondering how other fathers and mothers felt for the first time they
got news of there first born. advice would be nice too. I don't think I
have ever been so happy.
[Edited on 12/11/2003 by Dense] ____________________ i am a misunderstood genius... Nobody understands that i am a genius! |
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Psychopixi
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posted on 23/1/2004 at 12:21 PM |
Congrats!!
As other people've said, play music to the baby and and also read to it,
even before it's born. And then don't stop. It's a lot better for the kid
than being stuck in front of the idiot box, and it will help them learn
skills such as talking, then reading and writing a lot quicker. ____________________ Do not fear death so much, but rather the inadequate life. |
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BlueLinn
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posted on 23/1/2004 at 12:09 PM |
congratulatios , happy for you. ____________________ When the world is over, will we wonder how it began? |
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LadyCygnet
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posted on 15/11/2003 at 12:23 PM |
Dense: Yeah, she should be getting extra calcium and fluids now as well, so
she and the baby both stay healthy.
Cravings on your part are normal, by the way. Since you and she are so
intimate, it's natural that you would pick up on the cravings as a
sympathetic response. It's one of the more amusing things I've noticed
about the pregnancies around me.
Domkitten: I was just clarifying so people would understand that I in no
way considered my nieces and nephews accidents. The important thing was to
be there for my sisters when they found out they were pregnant.
As for screwed up families...well, I think they're more common than
not...people can be bastards, especially to people they love.
And I agree: kids are pretty awesome. They can be holy terrors, but
sometimes they can help people see things they would ordinarily miss about
life...
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Dense
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posted on 15/11/2003 at 12:01 PM |
She is taking her vitimins. She is a "light" vegitarain but during the
pregnacy that is out. The other day she was distrought because she ate a
whole pound of bacon. I could do nothing more than point out things like
that happen when you are pregant. The funny thing is I am getting cravings
too. I have had them for pickles&peanutbutter, raw oysters, mostly salty or
sour things. I am mostly worryed about calcium. Doesn't the forming of baby
bones take away the calcium? As far as cigars my friends are not even
alowing my to smoke unless we are drinking. I have cut that back and I am
not that big of a drinker. I do have my boy long running down to mexico for
cubains. ____________________ i am a misunderstood genius... Nobody understands that i am a genius! |
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Merry_Widow
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posted on 15/11/2003 at 11:43 AM |
Folic Acid. Make sure she gets plenty of folic acid during the first early
stages. It cuts down on neural tube defects. ____________________ Okay, dazzle me. |
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Domkitten
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posted on 15/11/2003 at 02:48 AM |
You know I giggled myself stupid when I posted that, I know you weren't
saying the kids were accidents, I just thought of how odd it would sound if
you were sitting around and your Aunt said it instead of your mother, but
perhaps that's just because my family was so damned screwed up....Take a
deep breath people I work with kids and really enjoy their company, they
are much wiser than most of the adults I know, and good for stupid fun,
too. Plus that get all my jokes....
My only reccomendation, don't color co-ordinate or brand item your child.
My biggest complaint with parents these days is the amount of brand
identity they are feeding their children. I always find it a little
disturbing when my four year old kids come in talking about their Nike
shoes or Fubu shirts. I have a lot of kids who change backpacks and pencil
cases every day because something else is "in" and it bugs me a great deal.
Granted you don't have to start thinking about that right away, but you
might want to remeber it when the clothes at the Baby Gap are looking good.
Also, I can not stress the importance of a good car seat. The first thing
you should by is a good car seat. I'm not sure what the best stuff on the
market is right now, but there are definately some mom's hear that can
reccomend things.
Other than that have fun....
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dead-cell
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posted on 14/11/2003 at 10:46 PM |
Congrats Dense ::passes out cigars:: oh and get your mind out of the
gutter. ____________________ co-worker: "Your gay!?"
myself: "Didn't you see my rainbow pin?"
co-worker: "I just thought you liked skettles."
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LadyCygnet
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posted on 14/11/2003 at 12:22 PM |
Dense: Thanks, but I'm going to have to wait anyway. I'm on my way out of
a marriage that never shou;d have been in the first place, and I'm still
dealing with a chronic illness, an ex-lover, flashbacks, and the emotional
repercussions of a miscarriage I probably should have been over by now.
It'll be al ong time before I even consider something like
that...*sigh*...wounds run deep...but thank you anyway...
I cannot emphasize enough the importance of prenatal vitamins and prenatal
care. Technically, women of childbearing age should take prenatal vitamins
anyway...it just a backup for what should be a healthy diet anyway...
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Dense
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posted on 14/11/2003 at 11:51 AM |
Meranda Jade thankyou for the advice.
LadyC. your advice is welcomed. I am grateful for it. As for as have your
own well...
My daddy said to me in all his sageful wisdom was "Now your
biggest mission is
adding 'dy' to dad" What I am saying is even if you are not
the biological
mommy you are still mommy.
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LadyCygnet
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posted on 14/11/2003 at 10:07 AM |
Dense: You didn't offend, hon; in fact, one of my biggest dreams was to be
a mother one day...but it looks like that isn't going to happen...*soft
smile* At worst, I'm just jealous.
Another piece of advice: Make sure Kim gets plenty of water, good food,
and visits her doctor on a regular basis. The WIC program might be
something to look into (I don't know your financial situation, but my
sister was able to get into it with my mom's lower middle-class income 8
years ago), especially for fruit juices and dairy products.
Also, you might want to get a copy of "What to Expect When You're
Expecting" (cliche, but it's handy) and visit places like webmd.com (they
have a customizable pregnancy calendar that gives you neat little details
about how the baby is progressing based on date of conception/due
date/first day of last period/etc).
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Meranda_Jade
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posted on 14/11/2003 at 08:56 AM |
One thing about diapers: Luvs are the best ones. Pampers and Huggies are
too expensive, and besides, no matter what the commercials say, they leak.
A lot. Any of the bargain style, off-brand diapers leak. A lot. I know this
from trial and error through 4 babies, and Luvs was always the best choice.
I always regretted getting different diapers.
Breast feeding is best, and really should be done for at least the first
few months. There are chemicals in the first few feedings that keep the
baby from getting sick. Like natural immunizations. If it gets hard to
breast feed, and you have to use formula... there are a lot of them on the
market, and your baby might need a specific kind. I used Carnation. Less
spitting up with that one than with Similac. You're not going to know what
kind your baby will need until its here, so don't worry about actually
stocking up on it. Just save a lot of $$ because this stuff is around $10 a
can, and a healthy baby will go through roughly 4 cans a week. If you have
a dishwasher, the heat from it will sterilize bottles and nipples.
Get a swing. Kim will think it's the best baby accessory she has. Most
babies are sleeping within 5 minutes of being wound up.
Not sure about playing music, but I do know that the more stressed a mother
is, the more stressed baby is when it comes out. The best thing you can do
for Kim and the baby is keep her calm and happy.
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Dense
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posted on 14/11/2003 at 08:10 AM |
Anya, It is a big joke in my familly too. The typical reply to it is along
the lines of :
"My baby does not need to be bald. Kim has hair gorgeous red hair, and mine
is a dark brown with light brown or red highlights(depending on how much
the sun can be advoided). My kid will be able to seduce anyone he/she trys
to."
It alows the parant to brag.
LadyC: I appoligize I used the wrong word. I hope I did not offend. I
adgree with you. It pisses me off when I hear, even in a joking context,
some one refur to thier child as an accident.
Kim is already planing on playing to the little on.
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Stille
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posted on 14/11/2003 at 07:44 AM |
Congratulations, Dense!
A little advice: I've heard that music played to an unborn child will make
him/her smarter, but that may be just another superstition. put then, on
the other hand, the more a brain is stimulated, the better it becomes. ____________________
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LadyCygnet
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posted on 14/11/2003 at 12:21 AM |
Just to clarify: "unplanned" does not equal "accident." I love my nieces
and nephews, and, speaking as someone who was referred to as a "mistake," I
wouldn't ever say anything about anyone being an "accident" or "the load
your mother should have swallowed."
Anyway, they're seriously expensive, but I know that neither of my sisters
regret having any of their kids.
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Anya
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posted on 13/11/2003 at 04:56 PM |
I was being sarcastic Dense. |
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Merry_Widow
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posted on 13/11/2003 at 10:36 AM |
Oh! Get a nice big set of headphones for mom to put on her tummy later on.
It's never to early to show a kid what good music sounds like.
And when the wee one is actually born, read to him/her. It does so much
for kids I can't even begin to list.
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Dense
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posted on 13/11/2003 at 07:41 AM |
Anya: My baby does not need to be bald. Kim has hair gorgeous red hair, and
mine is a dark brown with light brown or red highlights(depending on how
much the sun can be advoided). My kid will be able to seduce anyone he/she
trys to.
LadyC, not to mention the prices on baby furniture and clothes.
I don't think any Kid is an accident. Just a pleasent little suprise that
makes you think, "Oh sh*t, how to deal with this one!?!"
[Edited on 13/11/2003 by Dense] ____________________ i am a misunderstood genius... Nobody understands that i am a genius! |
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Domkitten
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posted on 13/11/2003 at 04:24 AM |
Man it's got to be hard on a kid growing up hearing the Aunt say "you were
an accident." ____________________ It's like kegel exercises for your throat.~Monolycus |
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LadyCygnet
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posted on 13/11/2003 at 12:50 AM |
Congrats, Dense.
A piece of advice, since you're asking--start saving up now. Diapers and
whatnot are going to cost an arm and a leg, not to mention future
education. I don't have any kids of my own, but I have 3 nieces and 2
nephews (nieces were unplanned, nephews were not), so I've got a bit of
experience with the little buggers. ____________________ "To Live is to Annoy." -- Rev. Lambert Reilly, Archabbot, St. Meinrad Abbey |
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