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| Articles: My shot at being cordial |
Posted by
Andree on Sunday, August 26, 2001 - 02:26 PM PST
I've decided to stop being reclusive and post something. And I'm not even going to complain, because soon enough I'll find plenty of things to whine about, with school starting and such. I'm going to be positive for a change. Here goes.
I love it when people are genuinely nice. I don't mean the people who publicly donated their last paycheck to their favorite charity, or people who feed the homeless . . . I'm talking about small selfless acts of kindness, with no hidden motives. Little stuff, like when the lady behind the counter at the store says "have a nice day" and means it, or the guy at my dad's office who keeps a bowl of Jolly Ranchers on his desk.
The great thing about considerate people is their lasting impression. I'll always remember the nice gothboy at the cafe who asked if he could sit at my table then asked if it was all right with me if he smoked. I won't forget the record store employee who gave me a poster just because he had an extra one and felt like being nice. I like the Ukrainian optomitrist's assistant who calls me "dear."
Anyone can do that kind of stuff. How hard could it possibly be to smile one of those authentic smiles once in a while? I admire those of you who actually do.
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Re: My shot at being cordial
by bettie_x (strangersangel@hotmail.com)
on Aug 26, 2001 - 09:49 PM
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I know....little things like holding the door open for the person behind you, or for a woman with lots of bags or a stroller....or for old people. I work reatail, and have to admit I'm guilty of those fake smiles once in a while, but it takes alot to even get one out with all the jackasses you work with all day, the screaming rude people, the demanding thankless people. I've met plenty of nice people though, too. People that understand what a day and other people can dish out, and are kind, courteous, and patient. If I'm out smoking, and I see an old man with a walker, I get off my lazy ass and get the door for him. If someone's waiting for an undue length of time in line and are getting frusterated, I cut them a little deal. I smile back when people smile at me, and though sometimes it is genuinely FAKE, I at least look like I mean it, because after all....what have they done to me?
I wish more people would do that...or at least understand what the girl/boy behind the counter deals with every day. At a drive through, at a bank, over the phone, etc.
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Re: My shot at being cordial
by Schizo on Aug 27, 2001 - 06:01 AM
(User info | Send a Message) | Yes! And the waitresses, too! It's time some people started to treat waitresses like human beings. It's hard to be perfect under pressure. I try to be nice and smile for everyone, and to give the best service I can, but some people make it very hard. I'd rather serve a nice table that smiles back and talks to me, even if they run my ass off, then a sulky, antisocial table that only orders soup and a sandwich. Let alone the blatantly inconsiderate. It seems that some people come into a restaurant with the attitude "let not my dining experience be flawed in any way" and take it personally if anything happens to ruin that perfection. And of course take it out on the waitstaff. The thing is, they're the ones who always end up unhappy and dissatisfied. If they learned to be flexible and accept that even dining life is never perfect, then they would end up having a better time, let alone probably better service.
OK. This sort of turned into my own little rant. But my point is, my appreciation goes out to the people who can look beyond the flawed service and see the poor overworked person behind it, and let go of their right to the "dining experience" to make that person's day a little brighter. Especially the people who tip better the worse you do, because they can see you worked so hard! I love those people, and not just because of the money. They are the real light of the world, and their unselfishness and graciousness is a beautiful thing. |
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Cordiality's drawbacks
by Arthegarn on Aug 27, 2001 - 12:35 PM
(User info | Send a Message) | Now here is a guy who is always trying to be cordial. And who finds himself more than one time in the following circumstance:
According to the status quo, a man can be cordial to a man by a very strict set of rules that reduce contact. But to a woman, a man can be much more cordial to the point of gallantry.
Well, I find too many times that women find gallantry, or cordiality, or even the most basic politeness as sexixt. I had a friend who used to get angry at me when I opened the door for her (I was raised that way, I can't help it). I have had fellow female lawyers who would never go before me in a threshold, no matter the bulk they were carrying. One actually shot at me when I offered to help her with the files with something that translates something like "I am as mucha damsel as you are". Just because they were women... hey, I would have done the same for a man.
Why are there women who feel either sexually harassed or helped out of pity every time a man tries to help? Hell, it gives you a really hard time when you try to be nice and they slap you.
Grunt.
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Re: Cordiality's drawbacks
by StaticRat13 on Aug 28, 2001 - 05:12 PM
(User info | Send a Message) | | i believe in EQUAL rites. I hate it when other girls take this to such an extreme that it becomes sexist to the opposite sex. I find that just as offensive. If not more so because that gives me and a lot of other girs a bad name.(like Bitch) |
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