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Posted by
Vampcourt on Tuesday, April 09, 2002 - 04:19 AM PST
So here i have had my luck and found my new place to reside. i am happy. tho it is not permanent because my real plan is to move out west this summer. (hopefully) But this is my shmeng of the moment.
So.. The other day. My friend Bean (nickname of course) Came over to my apartment to prepose that i take her in as a roommate. She claimed to have a job and making money weekly. I told her that i would think about it. although i was really thinking NO in my head.
Here is why.. Bean.. has a huge history of being really really irresponcible with her life. She is a sweet girl. funny personality. but. Cannot take care of herself at all. she would be what some would call a freeloader. She's lookin for that free ride. someone to pay her way through everything. and it just doesnt happen that way. alot of people end up telling her to fuck off coz she doesnt keep a job and spends alot of her money (when she has it) on drug uses. I really adore bean. she has always been nice to me. but she really really has been lazy with her life. Many have tried to help. many end up being used. We are friends. not psychologists.
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So here i am checking out my new apartment the other day and bean is there with my friend angie. Its obviouse that this place is a one bedroom. I start to look around the place and bean comes up behind me "oh can we get it? its so nice! i have a futon! the living room could be my room! wont that be cool? we can have partys!" I turned to her and told her that i had to think about the apartment being.. that it would be Mine.. Not Ours. She then began to give me a run around trying to pressure me Into making her my roommate. I dont think so. I was told that bean had a apartment in the past. she let all these little freeloader flopphouse kids stay there at her place.. There even was a guy in the closet. I couldnt even imagine that with me. No way.So i told her that i wasnt sure even if i was getting the place and that she should go and find her own.
I thought it would be the end there. Indeed not.
That night i got a phone call at 10:30 in the evening. I was asleep and the phone rang. so finnally i got up and answerd it. "hey! did you get it? did you call the landlord to see if its okay that you can have a extra person?"
Me: "Bean.. I did call the landlord. but i never said i would be having you live with me."
Well then.. after that.. the normal voice ended and the she went into hysterical crying about how she got kicked out of her moms house and that her moms a psychotic bitch and hates her and blah blah blah. Oh the Sobbing this girl layed out to me. basically.. it boiled down to.. She wanted to move in with me now. and stay with me until she could get her own place.
Now. I have been avoiding everytime she calls. I dont want to hear from her. I feel like im being manipulated and i really am getting pissed off. jebus tits! This girl is fully able to go out and work a job and support herself. she doesnt need to be laying this on me. And why me? why not one of her other "good" friends. I really think she is targeting me coZ im so damn compassionate. fehk. what to do what to do...
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Re: Room mate pushers..
by Kira (starchyld9@aol.com)
on Apr 09, 2002 - 03:31 PM
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That sucks! Actually, I feel like I can contribute to this because I have never lived alone. Roommates can be either wonderful friends or a major source of drama and headache. I think this Bean would probably fit into the second category.
There is really an easy way to get her off your back, and even set up so that you won't feel guilty about saying no (not that you should...just that I know how these things go). Most leases have a provision written in that says something to the effect of "all people living on the premises must be on the lease." Tell her you don't think it would be a good idea to break the terms of your lease (which in theory could get you evicted, but usually takes a lot more than that). That's all you have to say.
Otherwise, if you really don't mind the idea of letting her move in for awhile have her pay you at least half of what you paid for security deposit, rent for the month, and put her name on the lease. Then at the very least she is somewhat legally responsible. I'm guessing she wouldn't have the money anyway (since she is looking for a place but can't afford one yet) and so that puts the responsibility back on her yet again. After all, it's not your fault she hasn't been working and saving money.
What you don't want to do is just let her stay there, trash your place, and then disappear. However, if your goal is to end up on Judge Judy....LOL
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Re: Room mate pushers..
by callei (plyn@plynlymon.com)
on Apr 09, 2002 - 05:41 PM
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hehe make her fill out an app, show you the cash for half the deposit and the first two months of rent, and take the cash to hold "so you can pay it as soon as the manager says yes". Then show here a HUGE list of chores and sign in sign out times and such, and tell her she will have to be somewhere else on tuesdays and fridays because you need the appartment to yourself.
see if she still wants to move in
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- Nifty by VampCourt on Apr 10, 2002 - 08:18 AM
Room mates from the seventh layer of the pit....
by bettie_x (strangersangel@hotmail.com)
on Apr 09, 2002 - 09:14 PM
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Well, michael and I ran into this problem.
He was invited to move into one bedroom of a house his friends were renting. So, being as he needed to move, and they asked, he did.
I didn't live with him then...it was cheap rent as it was split between four people, and we liked them, so all was cool.
Then one of the roomates bailed (she was such a bitch)...
So everything was fine...then the girl who's name was on the lease...well, her sister and boyfriend needed a place to stay for three months BAD.
Well, okay...no need to be snobbs. So they move in.
Now whenever I was there, I was respectful of the fact that I didn't live there. I had free reign, didn't eat other people's food, hell I even cooked for them, did dishes when there were dishes to be done, cleaned the house regularly, cared for pets etc. so they had no qualms about me being there when michael wasn't home. I always knocked and waited for someone to yell for me to come in or let me in, and when they said I didn't have to and asked why I did, I just said that it wasn't my house and I was being respectful.
Okay, back to sister/boyfriend moving in.
He brings a cat with him who had some sort of terror of the litter box, and would get in, stick his ass over the edge, and crap on the floor. We would have to tell him to clean it up. He was a dj...moved all his equipment into the living room and would be blasting techno ALL night, fully aware that michael's room was down the hall...and that he works at 5am.
On the first day they moved in, he made SANDWICHES out of my hotdog buns, ate my last package of top ramen, and drank all of michael's iced tea.
Then they decided they didn't like me being downstairs watching television because THEY wanted to...even though they never asked me to move over or mentioned they wanted the tv, which would have been fine by me.
SO after months of my doing their dishes, feeding their pets, cleaning their litter boxes, vaccuuming THEIR carpets, mopping their floors, letting them eat the food I bought, and buying michael ear plugs to block out the incessant techno, XIAN (the boyfriend) actually blows up at julie (his girlfriend's sister) about how I should have to pay rent, that I'm always there hogging up the couch and tv, etc. Even though I never took a parking spot by the house, never asked him to turn down his retarded techno, cleand up HIS cat's litter box traumas, let him eat MY food, and regularly cleaned up after everyone, I should pay them for just being there, even though I pulled more weight to keep the place up than they did!
Michael found out and put notes all around the house. "pets fed and loved by laurie" "floor swept and mopped daily by laurie" "food bought and cooked for everyone by laurie" "carpets vaccuumed by laurie" "laundry done by laurie" and one on the door "everything done by laurie"
Oh my god he wet his pants! He was like "what the fuck do all these notes mean?! What the fuck is he trying to say!?" To which julie simply answered "I think you know. SHE respects she doesn't live here, but she cooks, cleans, and takes care of this place like she does, and so does michael, and you have no right to be such an asshole about it. You're temporary, this place isn't yours, and michael wants you to respect the fact that she doesn't even live here and does more than you, you've got no room to complain"
Then she got him drunk of cheap booze and when we got home to face the fire, he was alll sorts of cool and sorry.
What's the moral of this incessant rambling story?
DON'T LET HER MOVE INNN!!!! YOU NOW KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN!!!!!
THey'll use and abuse and cry when they don't get what they want. When she hints she's got nowhere to go, save a stack of cheap rental addresses and just hand them to her. You'll feel like you're helping, she'll eventualy get the hint, and maybe she'll get her shit together after a few evictions.
and change your phone number.
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Re: Room mate pushers..
by VladII (vladII@seznam.cz)
on Apr 09, 2002 - 11:52 PM
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oh , only one thing. the problem is if someone is friend and psychologist in one person.
and what to do? maybe you could think if she really need your help or not. cause if you helped her so many times before and she is unable to change her life , maybe is a time to let her go in her own way. sorry.
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