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Posted by
silvernyte on Friday, November 09, 2001 - 03:43 PM PST
First off I want to say that this does not include all of the male populace. Just some of you. I also realize that women can be the same way. Why I don't know, some humans seem to delight in causing others pain. I need to rant for a minute. If this gets posted GREAT, if it doesn't I will have said my piece even if no one reads it. This seems to be happening to a lot of people I know right now in one way or another. It must be that time of year.
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What is it with you guys out there! You say that some women are cold and deceitful. Take a look in the mirror boys! You seem to think it's fun to trash another person for your own delights. You make all kinds of empty promises, tell all kinds of lies and then vanish. Or say something like "I'm suddenly not interested any more". You guys have some special switch that you can turn on and off whenever the mood strikes you or what? Some one please explain this to me. Is it that easy to just turn your emotions off and not give a bats ass any more. If you can do it without being hateful, spiteful towards others, or wanting revenge, please teach me. Some women are open and honest, we are the ones that pay for your freaking stupid, games. Either that or the ones that want to stick around say "ouch" every time you want to play rough or they forget how to grow and expand, broaden their horizons. Even when you have told them what type of person you are and what you like. I have seen all shapes and sizes of you pass through my life and other peoples. Age has no boundaries in this, young or old makes no difference. You're all a bunch of spineless slugs! You couldn't stand and be honest with someone about what you feel if it cost you your life. I have always wondered why some women can hate men so much, damn I think I got it now. So I'm slow sometimes, can't fault a girl for wanting to be truthful and not be like some of you slugs out there. It really pisses me off when I hear about it happening to younger girls. That's real good, start showing them early what it feels like to have your heart ripped out and run through the meat grinder, what it's like to be lied to, stood up, or just screwed and dumped, or take your pick of several other things. It doesn't make any difference if it is in the polyamorous world or the monogamous world, you make sure you cover everything. Do I ask for something that is that difficult? It freaking shouldn't be!!!!!!!
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Even with all this I still can't hate the male populace. I must be a sucker for pain, because there seems to be a lot of it out there. Don't get me wrong I enjoy it just as much as the next person, but not that type of pain. Either that or I have a magnet attached somewhere that draws them to me. I'm getting to the point I don't trust any one any more, no matter what they say. I feel like I am becoming no better than the slugs I loathe. Is this is what the human race is coming to? It makes me want to tell it to bite my white ass and I'll go back to being a recluse. It was lonely, but at least I didn't have to suspect every boy I met of being a slug.
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Ah, the purity of the anchorite....
by Comedian (comedian@callatg.com)
on Nov 09, 2001 - 05:36 PM
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Reclusiveness is always the answer.
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Into the jaws of Death rode the Five Hundred
by Arthegarn on Nov 11, 2001 - 10:06 AM
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Well, Ickgirl, what do you want me to tell you? I'll break a lance for my gender, of course. There are liars in both sides of the story but, when it comes down to hurting, nothing beats a woman.
You say men lake a lot of empty promises. Well, yes, I have seen that happen and I have seen it done by both guys and girls. But there's something else with girls: from time to time they demand their right to be unfair. I'll explain myself: a man might lie, and then he is a jerk. But a woman can tell you that she loves you, believe it, and then go on with the relationship until some day, without a warning, wakes up thinking "I don't love him anymore". No reasons, no nothing. When a man breaks a relationship he knows why is he doing so, even if it is in scrinio pectoris. Maybe there is another woman, maybe she betrayed him, maybe she is not whom he thought she was. But there is always a reason, a series of acts about him or her that he can quote as the reasons that led him to end the relationship.
Women are not like that. Obviously, if there is a reason to stop a relationship they do so and know why, but from time to time they just "don't love him any more". And that's all. No warnings, no nothing. They'll just dump him like trash. Maybe they'll feel a little sorry about breaking that guy's heart without a logical reason, but the most damning thing of all is that they absolutely believe they are doing nothing wrong. And when asked why they'll say "I don't know, it's just so".
You say we lie. It's true, some of us lie and some of you do as well. But men respect women enough as to always have a reason to dump her. They might be unfair, but if so at least they know they are unfair They are not as amazingly selfish as to break a relationship without any good reason AND feeling well by what they did.
You say we say “I’m suddenly not interested any more”. Yep. But at least we know why we are not interested anymore. Ask and he'll tell you something you did or said or whatever that led him there. Ask a woman and half the time sheŽll say she does not know, she just feels the relationship has to end.
Is it that easy to just turn our emotions off and not give a bats ass any more? Well, if you have found another, it is for many people, yes. Actually they don't switch emotions off, they transfer these emotions to someone else. I am not justifying, just describing
You say that women pay for men's games. Let me tell you about women's games. Each and every woman I have known so far share this one: they won't tell clearly you what they want nor what they need. Most of the time they won't tell you at all, you have to guess. Men are supposed to have to be able to predict what a woman wants or needs without a word from her. And once again girls see nothing strange about this! "If he wants to be with me, then he'll have to know me"; "I only want to be with a man who can foresee my needs" etc. Isn't this a game to you? Do you think it is remotely fair to ask a man to be a telepath? I have seen men (myself included) who would have taken the moon down every night for their women if they ever said a word: But no, they will not. You have to guess. And if you do not guess they'll get pissed off, and when the man tries to congraciate himself with her, she'll refuse once and again to tell him what's the matter. "You ought to know" is an all time classic for these situations. And so a man who is madly in love with a woman will see her drifting away without being able to do anything because she'll never tell him what the problem is. That torture can last for months, until she has gone so far away that there is no relationship at all, when all she had to do is open her "·$%&/@! word and speak!
If that's not playing games, I don't know what is it
You say we couldn’t stand and be honest with someone about what we feel if it costed us our l
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Re: Tired of the games!
by Arthegarn on Nov 11, 2001 - 10:12 AM
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Scheisse! I did it again! Sorry Ickgirl and Sylverynight for the confusion about the poster and the writer. I am always making that mistake :-P
So, Silverynight, then. I didn't really get what you meant by being taught how not to feel hateful or spiteful (against the guy who dumped you?) Well, if it helps there is a RAM practice you could try: the Cruelty Exercise: each time you feel something that you don't wish to feel, something that makes you cruel with yourself like hate or anger or self-pity or love pain, stick your forefinger's nail in the base of your thumb's nail. It is surprisingly painful. Try then to sublimate spiritual pain with physical pain and go on until you have suffered enough and the feeling goes away. It works very well for me. (BTW; I don't really know if you were asking this XD)
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Re: Tired of the games!
by Silvernyte (silvernyte@hotmail.com)
on Nov 11, 2001 - 01:09 PM
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Ok, Arthegarn, regarding your message you had Ickgirls name on.. We can sit and argue over the facts for ever and never get anywhere. As I said I have seen the same type of people from both genders, I am taking it from a females point of view. I can understand it from the males point of view also. Both genders were taught wrong when they were children. I’m talking 15 to 20 years ago, even farther back than that. Women are supposed to do anything their men say whenever they are told to do it and not talk back. Men are not supposed to show emotion or weakness of any kind as women will us it against them. Some parents have bothered to change these teachings and some are still teaching them. If you follow those teachings then you wind up being one of the slugs of life, feeding on others emotional pain and hurt. If you do not follow those teachings then you have opened your mind and figured out how to treat the other sex as an equal, not as a trophy or conquest. Being honest and open is the key to any relationship or friendship if it is going to last (as far as I’m concerned anyway). If you don’t tell the truth about how you feel or what is going on inside you, then you first off are lying to yourself, which if you do long enough you come to believe. Secondly you are lying to the person that is suppose to be important to you and you are suppose to love. If you love someone then you don’t lie to them. I’m heading for another rant so I’m going to cut this short.
As far as being taught to do it. If something is done to you enough times repeatedly in the same or very similar way, then you start developing a set reaction to it (feeling hateful or spiteful). An action/reaction pattern is developed and you do it without thinking about it. I see a lot of men and women do it. Children see their parents do it and they mimic the behavior. Slugs beget slugs and so on. Some of us see the pattern developing and break the cycle or work on breaking it when it is brought to our attention. Others refuse to listen or don’t believe that they do it, so it continues. Did that help any?
In regards to your RAM practice. Hmmmmm. For one, you are not suppose to do it till you bleed. Right? Any more suggestions. I have a very high pain threshold and used to do something similar to this until it didn’t work any more. Now I just try to pay very close attention to what is going on inside and watch for patterns that are not good to develop. Occasionally one or two slip by and I catch them after a habit has been developed and have to work on breaking it. I have to keep a certain amount of trust in people, which will lead me to getting hurt. Either that or I would become very repulsed and negative toward humans, which would not be good in the end. I know there are good people out there, I just have to weed through the slugs to get to them. This site has been a pleasure for me as peoples here are not afraid to speak their minds.
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Anybody feel like a song?
by Comedian (comedian@callatg.com)
on Nov 11, 2001 - 02:36 PM
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When a man/woman loves a woman/man, can't keep his/her mind on nothing else, turn his/her back on his/her best friend is he/she put him/her down..
*sigh*
It's so damn hard to just keep songs androgenous...
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