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Let's talk about sex(Score: 1) by Arthegarn on Sep 07, 2002 - 11:14 AM | I completely agree with you about the fact most people will never understand their own sexuality. Most females and almost all males, I'd contribute, because while most females might feel some anxiety at the prospect of being homosexual, most males feel striaght panic. I wonder if they realize that the average male has more homosexual orgasms than heterosexual ones, because when people self masturbate they are by definition having a homosexual contact (C'mon, boys, rise your hands if you don't agree)...
But then again it's true than in the Scene there is a great "tolerance" about anyone else's sexual options. I think that the fact is most goths don't give a damn about wether you like fish or meat or both, and if they do it's because they'd like to be in your dish. But whatever the reason I understand that you feel "betrayed" so to speak.
15 year olds don't get childish. They are childish,as childish as they come, as a rule of thumb, with all due respect and innocence suposition to all 15 year old Shmeng members (my, that was the lawyer in me). We also have of that kind in Spain. We call them "people who come to the circus", preps who come to the goth clubs just to drool over our magnificient, sexy girls (because gothbabes are ALL magnificient and sexy, and Shmeng ones are the best ;-) They stand around critizising all they do not drool over, and actually it's kind of funny. If we hadn't something we call "vergüenza ajena", literally meaning "other's shame" and which is feeling shame by the actions of someone else, they would be really welcome and most likely thrown peanuts.
In Spain most goths don't care about anyone else's sex life with the possible exception of some "cultural icons'" (Hey stop looking at me, willya?) Just yesterday I found myself discussing someone else's sex life. I was defending hir, but when I realized what the discussion was about I just stopped it with a brief "we shouldn't really be talking about someone who isn't here, you know", and the matter was instantly dropped. As if we hadn't a Dali exposition toi talk about!
Down here we are all happy with that kind of beahviour. Including your Catholic Father Arthegarn, by the way. Live and let live. Who isn't happy with that kind of behaviour is just because he wished he was the one making out with the two girls. And if someone really isn't happy, they are immediately shown the door and asked to make their choice and stop complaining because we are all very happy here with our sexual uninhibition, thank you. Anyway most are just like Banky in "Chasing Amy": "C'mon, man, when do you think we are going to see something like this live again without having to pay for it". Slipping over the drool is the greatest danger
Advantages of being hot, sexy latins*, you know.
As for the first part of your post, when someone tells your former date that you are with someone else... Well, that gossiper may not be a gossiper. It might be a friend of your former date worried about hir. Allow me some room about this.
I have recently been involved (I still am) in a similar situation to yours. Devin knows most of the story and many regulars will guess (perhaps even you). And I have been wondering what would I have done in the place of the confident, and the sad answer is I would have done exactly the same. If I see evidence of harm coming in a friend's way it is my duty as a friend to inform that friend. I can't hate the informant because s/he was doing what s/he thought was better for hir friend. It's not about getting a life, it's about having it and not turning your head when life puts you in a moral dilemma and act as if you had seen nothing. As I see it their intention was not to meddle in your sex life but to protect someone else's love life, your sex life being a colateral damage.
But who knows. Perhaps they just wanted to gossip and cause pain. That kind of people also exist. Just that I always try to think the best about everyone. And that includes the two of you who will be soon reading this message, you know who you are. I just wished you did the same.
By the way, St. Vitus Dance looks real nice
Arthegarn
(*) On a second thought I think it's we hot sexy Spaniards... |
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