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Re: Mummy Dearest
by Meranda_Jade (scurtis510@home.com)
on Jul 19, 2001 - 09:47 AM
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Yeah, she had it bad. That's still no excuse for murdering your own children. I was in exactly the same situation, and I didn't kill off my kids. After having the twins, I had postpartum so bad I felt like killing myself every time I woke up to a new morning. And I was homeschooling the other two, who were very young at the time (4 and 2)... never did I even think about hurting the kids, and I kept my suicidal thoughts at bay, too... I did have many hysterical crying jags that drove Rogue up the wall, but he dealt with it... (he can't stand to see me cry and not be able to do anything about it) It took me a long time to even figure out what was wrong with me...postpartum didn't cross my mind until it was over (Oh, that's what it was!) I just thought I was a bad person and a horrible mother... I didn't get out of the house or talk to anyone... had no network... but I still didn't kill the kids. There's something fundamentally wrong with someone who murders her own offspring... even if you feel like you can't take it, there are other things you can do besides killing them. I used to lock myself in the bathroom to calm down when I felt too stressed... or go outside on the porch for a few minutes... the little breaks really help. There was an article a while ago about a woman who'd adopted an "emotionally unstable" Russian boy...he was two years old... she caught him painting the wall with his own feces one day, and beat him to death. My boys went through the same damn stage at two, I had double the problem that woman did, and I didn't beat them for it. It's normal two year old behaviour... I cursed under my breath a lot while cleaning it up, I wasn't terribly happy about it, but kids eventually grow out of that stuff. For some reason people don't have the patience these days to deal with children, and that's sad. It makes me so mad to read these articles in the paper, because I know pretty well, if not exactly what these other parents are going through, and I know that all it takes is a little restraint and common sense to deal with it. I think that a lot of people are sadly lacking in compassion too, the general thought is "Me first" If the kid gets in the way of "Me first", they're the first thing to go... People probably think they can get their old pre-kid selves back if they get rid of the kids, and it doesn't work that way. As far as having kids in the first place goes, I really think that people have the best intentions when they decide to have a kid, but then it doesn't turn out the way they envisioned it, and so they want to go back to pre-kid. So it seems that the only alternative is to kill the kid and scream insanity... Everyone who thinks about having a kid should get a puppy. If you can't keep and take care of the puppy, you have no business having a kid. If you have a kid accidentally, you can either put it up for adoption, or take on the responsibility, but once you decide to take on that responsibility, you have to realize it's a lifetime thing, and not something you can just quit doing. ( I didn't *feel* like it anymore...) Then you have the "parents" who go ahead and keep the kids, but don't want to grow up themselves, and want to stay pre-kid whether they have kids or not... these people are neglectful and can be abusive, especially when the kid gets in the way of what they want to do... so you get screwed up kids who feel unloved and unwanted, and they go out and are abusive themselves... it's a nasty cycle. I just wonder what can be done about it... how do we wake these people up? Even if you feel like you're at the end of your rope, there should still be a basic sense of right and wrong, and that's what's gone out of society these days. Nobody feels like they have to be "good" anymore... there's always a loophole that will get them out of it, or they just don't care enough anymore to even try to do what's right. It's like this is a nation of two year olds, if they don't like a toy anymore, they just break it, then throw a fit...and there's no one aro
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