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Re: Operation Oatmeal
by bettie_x (strangersangel@hotmail.com)
on Apr 13, 2002 - 09:27 PM
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I think you are correct...we're all born with a predisposition, a personality, and though external factors help mould the person we become, they merely INFLUENCE the base personality. Some children are born with "winning" personalities, grow up in an abusive home, but strive to rise above it. Some are born without such personality and drive, same abusive home, and drown in it.
Look at me....loud, explosive, verbal and off the wall. I was raised in what could be called an "ideal" childhood, loving attentive parents, never in need nor in want, never had a hand raised to me. My middle sister is the very image of better homes and gardens...My eldest sister was always the troublemaker, the "wild child", and then me, big mouthed but more conservative than my eldest sister, only wierder. All raised the same, in the same condition, all at opposite ends of the spectrum. Because we were all born with our own unique personalities. Very OPPOSITE personalities.
Oddly enough, I get along better with my conservative sister who is married with her first baby, owns a home, two vehicles, and has a pretty normal life...versus my eldest sister and I who when not in a bar are at each other's throats unless faking it for the sake of family.
Your parents raised you with respect and a RESPECT for respect, it seems...a lot like my family. My mother would just rather not know...hell when I'd stay the night at my then boyfriend's house, I'd tell her we were watching movies for crying out loud! I'm 22 and she STILL doesn't know I smoke, and never WILL, DIDN'T know about the two tattoos on my back until I tried on my wedding dress, and she made it clear she wishes to remain in the dark, so I respect her wishes and let her be blissfully ignorant of the life I've chosen.
You respect her by not loading the juicy bits of your life that you know she'd have an aneurism over on her...you respect the fact that if given the choice she prefers the dark. She's made you a good person (from what I've seen), one that can make decisions for their own life, and one that can respect the wishes of others not to be horrified! (like my mom)
You can't change the personality, but you can influence it. And only that.
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