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Re: Truthism
by Schizo on Jan 19, 2012 - 06:19 PM
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That is something I've been working on. Obviously I started out with some pretty strong external negatives. Then I met my ex husband and got a pretty mixed bag there, but it was made obvious I was supposed to conform to his tastes. That was countered by some of the really great input I got here - for a while, that was my only consistent source of approval. I've grown since then, though. It's a little funny, but as I've stopped paying attention to other people's standards, and started discovering and living by my own, I find myself simply awash in approval, but this time from people I have a similarly high opinion of. I think that like definitely attracts like, and the more true you are to yourself, you attract more and more satisfying and supportive friends. On the other hand, the people I've encountered who lack the courage to relentlessly pursue truth either end up friendless, or surrounded by pseudo friends, and are generally pretty miserable.
Another funny thing is, the more thoroughly I hold true to my own (ever evolving) code, the more respect I seem to get even from those who not only hold a far different code, but have in the past attacked me for not following it.
There's really no benefit in lying to yourself about anything, or trying to live by another's rules. I've never done that but I've ended up regretting it.
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Re: Truthism
by Schizo on Jan 19, 2012 - 06:19 PM
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That is something I've been working on. Obviously I started out with some pretty strong external negatives. Then I met my ex husband and got a pretty mixed bag there, but it was made obvious I was supposed to conform to his tastes. That was countered by some of the really great input I got here - for a while, that was my only consistent source of approval. I've grown since then, though. It's a little funny, but as I've stopped paying attention to other people's standards, and started discovering and living by my own, I find myself simply awash in approval, but this time from people I have a similarly high opinion of. I think that like definitely attracts like, and the more true you are to yourself, you attract more and more satisfying and supportive friends. On the other hand, the people I've encountered who lack the courage to relentlessly pursue truth either end up friendless, or surrounded by pseudo friends, and are generally pretty miserable.
Another funny thing is, the more thoroughly I hold true to my own (ever evolving) code, the more respect I seem to get even from those who not only hold a far different code, but have in the past attacked me for not following it.
There's really no benefit in lying to yourself about anything, or trying to live by another's rules. I've never done that but I've ended up regretting it.
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